I would recommend telling her RIGHT UP FRONT there is no chance of a relationship. It may surprise you how many women say they are perfectly fine with that arrangement……. but what is also surprising is the number of women who say “that’s great! F~~~ buddy with no strings WooHoo!!”, and in her mind, after you say “NO RELATIONSHIP”, she thinks “oh yeah? We’ll see about THAT, mister”.
THAT’S what you want to protect yourself from.
By being 100% UPFRONT on that, you ALWAYS have an out.
Don’t forget… two people shouldn’t even BEGIN to consider “a relationship” for at least 9-12 months of knowing each other well enough to make a conscious mutual decision to step into one – together.
These people who bang and then wake up the next morning thinking they are “in a relationship” are just cultivating disaster and messy drama. They haven’t even exchanged middle names! If she hasn’t made an effort to ask things about you, know you better, learn your middle name, ask how many instruments you play, what languages you speak, how many sibs you have, where you went to school, what your goals and plans are…. then it’s not a “relationship”.
“Banging” can happen without all of that.
A relationship can NOT.
Attraction is all that’s required for sex to take place. The criteria for a “relationship” depends on a mile-long list of things that are worked on and earned – over time – by both of you. If you haven’t both made that decision, it’s not a relationship. You’re banging and thats it.
But you have to spell this out for women. Because they will f~~~ you for 2 weeks and think they are in a relationship with you. And now you are unmarried and expected to behave like a committed husband, not bang other chicks and pay for everything.
NO.
Women approach all of this BACKWARDS and think you should want a “relationship” with her first. It’s such bulls~~~. Yeah she can take as much time as she needs to have sex with you. No problem!!! But you will also take your time to determine if you like her enough to want a relationship with her.
Personally, I hate that term: “a relationship”.
There are TWO relationships going on. Your relationship with her. And her relationship with you. But women call it “A” relationship as if it’s only HERS that matters and his wants and needs are a total non-consideration.
MAKE IT CLEAR UPFRONT. Discuss all of this with her if you want.
NO “RELATIONSHIP” of any kind.
Then you will never need an “out”. Because you already established that.
It would be a mistake to let her THINK she is in a “relationship” with you, then after the bang, you decide you don’t like her anymore. I know a girl who withheld sex so hard, she wanted a guy to marry her first. HE DID!! Then it was annulled 3 months later. Maybe she was terrible in bed or her pussy smelled. Who knows. Who cares! They did it all wrong.
The point is, bang first, relationship is only possible LATER. No break ups to deal with. Those are YOUR terms and you set them, just like her terms to put out. If it’s not a match, then it’s not a match.
If she doesn’t agree with your terms, you forget about her and move on.
FACT YOU CAN SAY TO HER FACE: You are 10,000 times more likely to meet someone you are interested in having sex with before you will be interested in spending significant time with, listening to, talking to, living with, eating with — or marrying. The same things is true for her too.
So the idea of “a relationship” is FAR less likely to happen. Pretending relationships comes first is a woman LYING to herself. She won’t need a relationship when Chad thunderc~~~ shows up. Count on it.
This is how you can be TOTALLY honest with her. No bulls~~~.
If she doesn’t love/like/respect that about you, who cares.
It would never be a “relationship” anyway.
This is MGTOW. You make your own rules. That’s the beauty of it all.
If you keep doing what you've always done... you're gonna keep getting what you always got.
Kaido 3 years, 8 months ago.
