Bulls~~~ from the Ex

[TaxGuyParticipant]

So, I’ve been divorced for about six months now. Right at the time of the divorce, my ex and her employer had a mutual parting of the ways. She was tired of working there, helped find a replacement, still does a little consulting for them, so it was all on good terms.

Last week she texts me and says that she thinks we should revisit our divorce and far as the money is concerned. She hasn’t been able to find full time employment and can’t afford the 3,100 square foot house she is renting with her boyfriend. While I live in a 900 square foot apartment!

Without getting into all of the details, she got a great deal. I pointed out to her that she shouldn’t have quit her job and she got really p~~~ed! She tells me that she was laid off, that she had to fight for unemployment and it’s all documented. GO THERE!! was her response. I said I’m sure it’s well documented, you’re not that dumb, which ended the conversation.

So, here is the funny part. This has all been through text messaging. I screenshot the original texts where she tells me it’s all mutual, and the ones from this week saying that she was laid off and had to fight for unemployment. Can anyone say “unemployment fraud?” Now, I doubt anything would actually happen to her, because…………..vagina. But if push comes to shove, I can’t imagine a judge taking her side if she really wanted to push for more money. Of course, in divorce court, having a vagina is a major advantage so you never know.

Hopefully she’ll f~~~ off with this. I think she was just testing the waters and got major pushback. My other point with her was that, after paying alimony and child support, I still pay for things like soccer and dance. If she gets more money, she’ll just get those bills as well because then I won’t be able to afford to pay for them. You can’t go to court and make more money appear out of thin air. Logically that’s true, but leave it to a woman to believe that I will just magically make more money because she wants more. Oh yeah, and she’s got two side gigs that apparently don’t pay her anything. I’m thinking that may be just a tiny bit untrue.

So, she drags the divorce out for 3 years, threatens to lie in court to get more money up front, quits her job, and six months later can’t afford her McMansion that she has shared with her boyfriend for almost 2 years (remember, been divorced for only 6 months). And has twisted everything in her head to make it all my fault. This was also the women that texted me one night telling me what a good place she was in, how she finally figured out who she is and wanted to know if I was sure I was done………

And women wonder where all the good guys are and why won’t we “man up” and date them.

Order the good wine

[OgreParticipant 5863]

Your commitment to her is over. The only thing in common is the child. If she can’t support the child then you should make that the first counter in court next go around.

If the bitch has no income then you may as well have custody and collect (a little) from her. She can work at MacDonalds and make minimum wage to pay you.

Normally there is a minimum time period for review of child support orders, she is definitely early and she is the one who changed her financial conditions.

I know you will so this is just reinforcement, stay strong.

I failed to realize in my youth that I was the prize. I was going to work. I was going to earn. Little did I realize that due to feminism, that no longer meant I had to share. Road soon, Desert after.

[ILiveAgainParticipant]

She will ask the court to order you to get a second job.

Then maybe a third if she needs extra vacations with boyfriend.

I jest but in my nightmares it happens.

[Jan SobieskiParticipant 28791]

Why should she work? She has a perfect situation. One Chad to f~~~ and one to support her lifestyle.

Love is just alimony waiting to happen. Visit mgtow.com.

[RusskyParticipant 13503]

This doesn’t sound good at all. My prayers go out for you, brother.

proud carrier of the 'why?' chromosome

[experiencedParticipant]

Russky wrote:

This doesn’t sound good at all. My prayers go out for you, brother.

AGREED!

Before it’s too late, you need to promptly hire and prepare with the son of a bitch asshole bastard pit-bull divorce attorney in your region. Make it clear to him that ALL of the aforementioned bulls~~~ from her is totally unacceptable and that it needs to be shoved back down her throat in such a manner that she would never dream of pulling it again.
The divorce was over. She wants to re-start it? CRUSH HER.
The reasoning behind this is .. .. consider what may happen if you don’t.
1) underprepared = you’re eff’d
2) just the right amount prepared = you’re never going to figure it that accurately.
3) the only option = over prepare, overkill, and it’s justified by your knowing the true peace in your heart that she will never dare try it again.

You are defending yourself here; she is the aggressor. She needs to learn the meaning of “cease and desist.”

Discuss NONE of this directly or indirectly with her.
ALL communication must be through your attorney.

"It seems like there's times a body gets struck down so low, there ain't a power on earth that can ever bring him up again. Seems like something inside dies so he don't even want to get up again. But he does."

[chirParticipant]

WARNING… Woman in full on MONEY MODE and you are the wallet.

It is by caffeine alone I set my mind in motion, it is by the beans of Java that thoughts acquire speed, the hands acquire shaking, the shaking becomes a warning; it is by caffeine alone I set my mind in motion.

[bigboy83Participant 11312]

What a c~~~!

Women are worthless, liability, gold digging whores, who are helpless and needy. Sucks to be her.

Good luck on the situation.
I think mgtow should start recruiting lawyers and judge’s.

Shit Tested, Cunt Approved.

[TaxGuyParticipant]

experienced wrote:

Russky wrote:

This doesn’t sound good at all. My prayers go out for you, brother.

AGREED!

Before it’s too late, you need to promptly hire and prepare with the son of a bitch asshole bastard pit-bull divorce attorney in your region. Make it clear to him that ALL of the aforementioned bulls~~~ from her is totally unacceptable and that it needs to be shoved back down her throat in such a manner that she would never dream of pulling it again.
The divorce was over. She wants to re-start it? CRUSH HER.
The reasoning behind this is .. .. consider what may happen if you don’t.
1) underprepared = you’re eff’d
2) just the right amount prepared = you’re never going to figure it that accurately.
3) the only option = over prepare, overkill, and it’s justified by your knowing the true peace in your heart that she will never dare try it again.

You are defending yourself here; she is the aggressor. She needs to learn the meaning of “cease and desist.”

Discuss NONE of this directly or indirectly with her.
ALL communication must be through your attorney.

You know, I’m glad we are able to have this conversation in front of everyone. Here is the reason why I won’t take your advice, although I truly appreciate where you are coming from.

My ex is a narcissist. And I don’t mean a normal unicorn/princess entitled kind of chick. I mean a full on narcissist. It wasn’t until I read numerous books and articles on the subject that I began to understand how to deal with her.

The worst way is head on. She’s looking for an energy source, and p~~~ing her off will give her that energy. At that point it’s ONLY about WINNING, and she would do ANYTHING to win. And by anything, I mean get a restraining order, lie to the police, say my girls don’t want to be alone with me because they are afraid of me, anything she can think of to WIN. F~~~ collateral damage, f~~~ the relationship between her daughters and their dad, just F~~~ING WIN.

The better approach for me is to take an ax to a redwood. Chop by chop, toss a little truth out there at a time, never let it go full nuclear war. Then she doesn’t get that big boost of energy she is looking for, she slowly realizes that she is putting herself in a position where she could get in trouble with the law, and she drops it.

Rule one with a narcissist: The only way to win is to not play the game. If our next conversation is through an attorney, it’s nuclear war. If I go slow, the game may never start. But I’m always stockpiling ammo for the day the war may come.

Order the good wine

[Biggvs_DickvsParticipant 3725]

ha cool pic chir.

Dude seriously, listen to the voice of Experienced. Some pun intended.

There is the other factor that this is your children’s mom, like it or not. I’ve never had to deal with anything like this with my daughter’s mom – we were never married, plus if she does take up with Chad’s she’s at least discreet and doesn’t bring it home in fron of our daughter.

Anyway, definitely get that baddass pitbull attorney. Definitely a guy too, I’m veru suspicious of female attorneys defending males in court.

It sounds like you got fooked in the last settlement, so he make take the approach of laying out for her the “fact” that is she brings it back to court, she will end up with LESS than she has now. See how she likes the sound of -that-.

That’s just a guess though – I’m no lawyer, I only play one on TV and when I deal with landlords.

I hope it works out ok for you!

"Data, I would be delighted to offer any advice I can on understanding women. When I have some, I'll let you know." --Captain Picard,

[HitmanParticipant]

I FEEL YOUR PAIN MAN.
MY EX CONSTANTLY BEGINS THINGS AND RARELY FOLLOWS THROUGH.
sorry, caps lock was on..
she started s~~~ tonight wanting to pick up her personal items from the house 3 years after she left.
i boxed up all her things and put them in the attic..
she wanted to know which box certain things were in..
i told her its been 3 years and i even offered to give her a box per week in the past to make it easier for her..
bro, i also am dealing with a woman who will do ANYTHING TO WIN .
it’s an art form to pick the words which will deliver a “no” messege and not start another round of legal fees ..
we have a child and i see the kid 4 days per week..
i will not jeapordize that for my pride..
so i think you know what to do..
i use SMS app on my phone to record ALL our texts..
it came in real handy a few times ..
remain vigilant my friend..
one day the kids will be older and appreciate your steadfastness .

[Anonymous 54]

I think your approach with a narcissist is correct. They are
all about the ego.let her think shes winning.

[experiencedParticipant]

Sounds like you’ve got a handle on it.
Keep everyone posted.
You’ll help other guys in your shoes.

"It seems like there's times a body gets struck down so low, there ain't a power on earth that can ever bring him up again. Seems like something inside dies so he don't even want to get up again. But he does."

[TaxGuyParticipant]

experienced wrote:

Sounds like you’ve got a handle on it.
Keep everyone posted.
You’ll help other guys in your shoes.

Thanks. That’s the only reason I post this stuff, to help someone else.

And Hitman, you sound like my brother from another mother!!

Order the good wine

[Deus Ex MachinaParticipant 1068]

good god i just had a similar conversation with a friend of mine today.

A Friend of mine got a divorce a year ago, and has since paid child support, it’s automatically deducted out of His paycheck. Well, He gets a phone call from His evil ex a few days ago saying: “I need more money”

Then, the bitch calls her attorney and says She hasn’t been getting any Child Support payments!!, Her Attorney filed some motion to have His Passport blocked!!. I had no f~~~ing clue that if you owe more then $2,500 You cannot get a passport? WHAT. IN.THE.ACTUAL. F~~~??????.

I told Him to seek Legal advice and get that straightened out because He’s also a flight attended for an Airline that flys globally, and in order for Him to keep His Job, He needs to own a Passport. He even told His Ex, that if He doesn’t have a passport, He can lose His Job.

Her exact words : “I don’t give a s~~~”

Women are f~~~ing heartless Bro, seek legal advice and make sure all your ducks are lined up. Best of luck to You Brother.

"If You have the Tooth of a Whale, You must have the Whale's Jaw to hold it". (i.e. One Must have the right qualifications for leadership) -Hawaiian Proverb

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