Breakup after 17 years not married

[NerdTunnelerParticipant]

Right now, your mind is your enemy…Do stuff, its what we do best..Fix a car, clean the car, organize the garage, sort your stuff, go for a walk or fishing, buy basic tools, help out where you are staying, go job hunting,..The list is endless…You have been so conditioned to be dependent on her that you feel lost without her…Get your head out of your ass and let her be..Sorry for my language, but you are wasting valuable brain space on someone who doesnt give a f~~~ about you or your feelings or your sacrifice…You forgot to value yourself…Go volunteer…Just dont spend time thinking about her because..SHE IS F~~~ING CHAD AND SHE LOVED IT SO MUCH SHE DECIDED TO THROW AWAY 17 YEARS WITH YOU. SHE IS SELFISH, SHE WONT BE WITH YOU WHEN YOU ARE OLD AND SICKLY. ONLY YOU CAN TAKE CARE OF YOURSELF…Sorry for the caps, I just want to shock some sense into you…Good luck brother and keep moving…

I stand with feet apart and let my balls hang free...Manginas dont have balls...See how they stand and sit at the whim of their masters...

[MattNYCParticipant 2329]

Anonymous wrote:

I may have made a bad decision leaving my job, but it was way too stressful and too many memories would haunt me staying in that area

If the job’s s~~~, then you made the right call. Now’s the time to up sticks and go to greener pastures man. What’s holding you back?

Anonymous wrote:

she wants to keep water bill in my name till she moves to avoid paying fees, same with cable. she said she will pay when final bill comes. I know you will say just cut it off, but supposedly she will split profit on house and items she is still selling

I don’t know much about splitting the proceeds from the sale of a house. You may have to talk to a lawyer about that. Lawyers aren’t cheap, but getting f~~~ed in the sale of a house is even more expensive.

One other piece of advice that helped me, and i learned it the hard way – go out and do stuff. At first it’ll make you feel less s~~~ty; eventually it’ll make you feel good. It doesn’t even have to be anything crazy – take an art class, and hit the gym for some weights, learn to cook or dance tango or something. Getting out of your own head can only help you right now.

[Anonymous 0]

Thanks guys, this has been very tough, I am entirely not to blame for the relationship ending, but I was willing to work on it and keep working on it… The house is in her name not much I can do, plus she has a lawyer brother. I just wanna figure out my life and move on. MattNyC I read that book today online, kinda made me realize my faults in the relationship

[Anonymous 0]

Where are my buds? I need some encouragement.

[OldschoolParticipant 2481]

We are here.

Get a vasectomy.

[OldschoolParticipant 2481]

What do you need, bounce it off me, I’ll try to help.

Get a vasectomy.

[Anonymous 0]

just feeling crappy earlier, thinking about what to do next…had a couple beers, I felt a little better

[NerdTunnelerParticipant]

Stop beating up yourself Rexmundi……She has decided and you cant force her on her decision..She decided to dump you for another c~~~, it is her decision and not your fault…She can decide to work with you in marriage but she chose otherwise..You have to accept that fact or you will be trapped in your mind…I am in a similar situation now but you cannot lose hope brother…It is her choice, and her immaturity..Let her be accountable for her actions…
Read other posts here and learn how to cope, to be thankful for what little you have…It is not the end, only the beginning of your freedom…

I stand with feet apart and let my balls hang free...Manginas dont have balls...See how they stand and sit at the whim of their masters...

[Anonymous 0]

Yeah, it hurts my ego she found another c~~~, what really hurts is all the work to find and get stuff for the house and now just selling it after 2 years, I am ashamed that I have to live with parents at 50, I am supposed to go to my nieces engagement party, I know she will break my b~~~~…I really miss my dog who is gonna be 16. Leaving my job, although it was stressing me out…

[Anonymous 0]

I had 2 beers last night and I felt better actually almost good, woke up not feeling that way, I told myself I need to feel this way all the time when I felt good.

[OldschoolParticipant 2481]

Yep, drink if you must, it does help in the short term. Remember its not a fix to your problems and stay the f~~~ away from your car when you do drink.

Get a vasectomy.

[Anonymous 0]

felt better after one, why cant i have that mind frame all the time, its not like i was drunk. of coarse, no driving

[Anonymous 0]

man I can’t stop thinking how crazy my life is, she really f~~~ed my head up. Im looking at women on tinder, so depressing…she is packing up and moving to AZ to probably marry this dude…I am having no luck w/women, job here

[Anonymous 13]

I will remind you,

Her NEW relationship WILL FAIL.

It was built on a foundation of lies, deceit and cheating.

It may happen quickly or take a while, but she’s going down.

[Anonymous 0]

Had to talk to her today, told me that she thought I repulsed her during the relationship and things would have been different if we actually got married.

[Anonymous 13]

What utter bulls~~~.

She would have cheated on you married or not.

See how she has turned this around on YOU now though.

What an utter c~~~.

NEVER MARRY.

This split would be ten times worse if you had.

[Anonymous 0]

I did give her a ring and we were engaged for a long time, we kept moving across country, I didn’t think it was so important to her, and didnt know what she wanted in a wedding, she was pretty cool for a long time, she met a rich solvaian girl at work who I dont think liked me because I wasn’t successful enough, I think she changed her

[Anonymous 13]

Anonymous wrote:

I did give her a ring and we were engaged for a long time, we kept moving across country, I didn’t think it was so important to her, and didnt know what she wanted in a wedding, she was pretty cool for a long time, she met a rich solvaian girl at work who I dont think liked me because I wasn’t successful enough, I think she changed her

If she truly ‘loved’ you she’d be with you now, married or not, engaged or not.

If the idea is to be with someone because you love them then all that ‘fluff’ is nothing but bollocks.

And how typical, you’re supposedly the love of her life yet some other c~~~ was able to get in her head and get you OUT.

That’s how THEY all work.

Seriously.

If you’d been married this other skank would have convinced her to cash in.

They’re c~~~s.

She didn’t ‘love’ you, no matter what she said.

Nothing you could have done or said would have changed it.

Once you KNOW that, you’ll have PEACE.

She’s going down, she just doesn’t know it yet.

[Anonymous 0]

Thanks SpiritRR, I want to be over this already, really hurts. Got to get my life in order.

[Anonymous 0]

SpiritRR how did you learn all this stuff? If you’re right about her new thing failing, I guess I would feel better.

Are you a Miami Vice fan or it here more to it?

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