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So testosterone Makes you look like M&M and a rapper with a Hoodie?
From the article: Increased levels of testosterone in boys can contribute to greater anger and aggression. Photograph: ThinkstockLove this:
Q In the past two months, my 12-year-old boy seems to have turned from a sweet and loving child who used to ask me if he could help me with anything into an aggressive and angry boy. He still looks like a little boy but his personality has changed completely. Everything is a problem for him; he won’t lift a finger to help and he provokes his younger brother and sister.
The final straw was when I tried to intervene in a physical fight with his brother and he pushed me hard against the wall. I went mad and refused to talk to him for a day until he apologised, which he finally did, but only because he wanted me to pay for his end-of-school trip, which I felt I couldn’t refuse. In the past I tried taking away the phone and computer (he is always glued to both of them), and he just said “Fine” and seemed willing to sit it out, so I ended up caving in.
He has lots of good friends he has known since Junior Infants, and he is out with them all day. I want him to be happy, but I just can’t make him understand how much his attitude and behaviour are affecting the rest of us. I know I should expect some change with his age but this seems so sudden and I’m worried that I might be missing something.
I’m going to save you the click:
Adolescence brings a period of quite intense interacting physical, emotional, social and cognitive (thinking) changes. The release of hormones is responsible for the physical changes and, in boys, increased levels of testosterone can contribute to greater anger and aggression. You say your boy looks quite young, and maybe this is affecting his confidence and self-esteem.
Brain development can also, in part, explain typical adolescent behaviour. Research has shown that during this period the parts of the brain associated with impulsivity, novelty-seeking, emotionality and self-consciousness are in overdrive while the areas that direct self-control and rational thought are still under construction. It does all eventually reach an equilibrium but for the first few years the “out of sync” brain can lead to flashes of anger, intense emotions and reckless behaviour.
The basics
Some practical things that are often overlooked are the basics of food, sleep and exercise. If your boy is out with his friends all day, is he eating properly? Make sure he has snacks, fruit and drinks so that he doesn’t get hungry and grumpy.
Sleep, or lack of sleep, is also a major issue in adolescents. Brain changes make them naturally want to go to bed later, but if he’s getting up early in the morning, or on a screen during the night, he may not be getting enough sleep.With regard to exercise, you say he is with his friends all day, but what is he up to? Too little or too much exercise may affect his mood. Another issue to consider is the sometimes daunting prospect of the move to secondary school and the natural anxieties and worries that can come with this.
Screen time
If your son has a phone and internet access, you might need to think about what he is watching and the amount of screen time he has.
Online bullying can happen almost silently and it’s always worth checking out whether this is an issue. Even if it’s all very innocent, the constant flow of information and comments doesn’t allow the child any downtime, which can affect their mood. Adolescents do not generally have the self-control to impose their own boundaries on screen time, so parents should help with this.Clear response
It can be hard to think of a reasonable reaction or sanction on the spot when you’re completely thrown by the event, but it’s possible that the lack of a clear response is actually allowing his behaviour to escalate.
The aim should always be to promote and reward positive behaviour rather than using sanctions, but you generally need something in your back pocket with a challenging teenager.Set out clearly in advance what will happen if he hits his siblings or pushes you in future; a specific time-limited removal of screen time for 24 hours might be appropriate. If he argues, it goes up to 48 hours.
If he refuses to hand them over, stay calm and wait for an opportunity to take them for the agreed time. Hand them back only when the time is up. If there is a parent or partner available, make sure that they are completely on board as the best of plans can fall apart if you don’t have a united front.
Any changes should be set against a background of ongoing communication and keeping the “airwaves” open with your child. You may find that it’s a bit of a one-sided conversation at times, but make sure to listen and encourage them to talk.
Pick a calm moment to discuss events and see what’s going on for him. A motorway journey is always good for talking; they can’t escape, neither of you has to look at each other and you can turn the radio on if the conversation dries up.
There is possibly nothing sinister about this situation and it may simply be part of the normal spectrum of teenage years and adolescence. However, keep a general eye on mood and if you continue to be worried don’t be afraid to ask for professional help or advice through your GP.
Dr Sarah O’Doherty is a child clinical psychologist.
WHY THE F~~~ WOULD YOU NOT ASK ABOUT DAD? OH YEA!!! FORGOT!
Nothing about sports. Nothing about having him go work out. WTF???
Notice NO WHERE does this woman say, “ask his father, maybe he can help, or talk to his grandfather, etc.
Just makes me sick.
You are all alone. If you have been falsely accused of RAPE, DV, PLEASE let all men know about the people who did this. http://register-her.net/web/guest/home
So testosterone Makes you look like M&M and a rapper with a Hoodie?
From the article: Increased levels of testosterone in boys can contribute to greater anger and aggression. Photograph: Thinkstock
https://www.irishtimes.com/life-and-style/health-family/ask-the-expert-my-12-year-old-boy-has-become-angry-overnight-1.2283657
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Q In the past two months, my 12-year-old boy seems to have turned from a sweet and loving child who used to ask me if he could help me with anything into an aggressive and angry boy. He still looks like a little boy but his personality has changed completely. Everything is a problem for him; he won’t lift a finger to help and he provokes his younger brother and sister.
The final straw was when I tried to intervene in a physical fight with his brother and he pushed me hard against the wall. I went mad and refused to talk to him for a day until he apologised, which he finally did, but only because he wanted me to pay for his end-of-school trip, which I felt I couldn’t refuse. In the past I tried taking away the phone and computer (he is always glued to both of them), and he just said “Fine” and seemed willing to sit it out, so I ended up caving in.
He has lots of good friends he has known since Junior Infants, and he is out with them all day. I want him to be happy, but I just can’t make him understand how much his attitude and behaviour are affecting the rest of us. I know I should expect some change with his age but this seems so sudden and I’m worried that I might be missing something.
I’m going to save you the click:
Adolescence brings a period of quite intense interacting physical, emotional, social and cognitive (thinking) changes. The release of hormones is responsible for the physical changes and, in boys, increased levels of testosterone can contribute to greater anger and aggression. You say your boy looks quite young, and maybe this is affecting his confidence and self-esteem.
Brain development can also, in part, explain typical adolescent behaviour. Research has shown that during this period the parts of the brain associated with impulsivity, novelty-seeking, emotionality and self-consciousness are in overdrive while the areas that direct self-control and rational thought are still under construction. It does all eventually reach an equilibrium but for the first few years the “out of sync” brain can lead to flashes of anger, intense emotions and reckless behaviour.
The basicsSome practical things that are often overlooked are the basics of food, sleep and exercise. If your boy is out with his friends all day, is he eating properly? Make sure he has snacks, fruit and drinks so that he doesn’t get hungry and grumpy.Sleep, or lack of sleep, is also a major issue in adolescents. Brain changes make them naturally want to go to bed later, but if he’s getting up early in the morning, or on a screen during the night, he may not be getting enough sleep.
With regard to exercise, you say he is with his friends all day, but what is he up to? Too little or too much exercise may affect his mood. Another issue to consider is the sometimes daunting prospect of the move to secondary school and the natural anxieties and worries that can come with this.
Screen timeIf your son has a phone and internet access, you might need to think about what he is watching and the amount of screen time he has.Online bullying can happen almost silently and it’s always worth checking out whether this is an issue. Even if it’s all very innocent, the constant flow of information and comments doesn’t allow the child any downtime, which can affect their mood. Adolescents do not generally have the self-control to impose their own boundaries on screen time, so parents should help with this.
Clear responseIt can be hard to think of a reasonable reaction or sanction on the spot when you’re completely thrown by the event, but it’s possible that the lack of a clear response is actually allowing his behaviour to escalate.The aim should always be to promote and reward positive behaviour rather than using sanctions, but you generally need something in your back pocket with a challenging teenager.
Set out clearly in advance what will happen if he hits his siblings or pushes you in future; a specific time-limited removal of screen time for 24 hours might be appropriate. If he argues, it goes up to 48 hours.
If he refuses to hand them over, stay calm and wait for an opportunity to take them for the agreed time. Hand them back only when the time is up. If there is a parent or partner available, make sure that they are completely on board as the best of plans can fall apart if you don’t have a united front.
Any changes should be set against a background of ongoing communication and keeping the “airwaves” open with your child. You may find that it’s a bit of a one-sided conversation at times, but make sure to listen and encourage them to talk.
Pick a calm moment to discuss events and see what’s going on for him. A motorway journey is always good for talking; they can’t escape, neither of you has to look at each other and you can turn the radio on if the conversation dries up.
There is possibly nothing sinister about this situation and it may simply be part of the normal spectrum of teenage years and adolescence. However, keep a general eye on mood and if you continue to be worried don’t be afraid to ask for professional help or advice through your GP.
Dr Sarah O’Doherty is a child clinical psychologist.
WHY THE F~~~ WOULD YOU NOT ASK ABOUT DAD? OH YEA!!! FORGOT!
Nothing about sports. Nothing about having him go work out. WTF???
Notice NO WHERE does this woman say, “ask his father, maybe he can help, or talk to his grandfather, etc.
Just makes me sick.There is a methodology being followed here.
They want to neuter and castrate men, physically. They are aligning their ‘experts’ to make claims that man, being a man, having testosterone, is a memtal comdition, a disability, a danger to society. They are laying the groundwork.
Women want everything, but want responsibility and accountability for nothing.
my 12-year-old boy seems to have turned from a sweet and loving child who used to ask me if he could help me with anything into an aggressive and angry boy. He still looks like a little boy but his personality has changed completely. Everything is a problem for him; he won’t lift a finger to help and he provokes his younger brother and sister.
Happiness for all and let no one be forgotten ("Roadside picnic", Arkady and Boris Strugatsky)
Exactly like iMickey said, where is the mention of the boy’s father or how about sports or exercise???
To tell you the truth, I dont even read it. If a woman wrote it, Im suspicious. If its a female therapist or something, I STOP RIGHT THERE.
They are likely trying to treat him as if he was a girl…. the school system was especially unkind to me and I will never forget that. I will never NEVER forget how adult women, (also women in their 20s) treated me when I was Kindergarten through 12th grade… That experience alone is reason enough to go MONK for my ENTIRE life.
Women are ABUSIVE. Best to ignore them and stay away.
Last night, in my condo. I rearranged my entire house and all my furniture. I now have a room that is 100% ONLY for creativity and cherished small things of mine, that is where my art supplies are. There is no TV or anything in there. ONLY MY SPECIAL THINGS.
Its really cool because now in the other main room, I have two TVs together so I can watch two movies at the same time! Or I can play xbox while watching NFL games.
But my ART ROOM is a sacred PLACE now. A HOLY PLACE.
NO F~~~ING WOMAN IS ALLOWED IN MY HOUSE!!!!!!!!! EVER! Only family (mother, aunt, niece, and two inlaws) Luckily they never come anywhere near my house or city but even they are not allowed in my HOLY ROOM.
Get rid of all the GASH in your life. Dont let them in your PEACEFUL HOME SPACE.
# ICE THEM OUT
# VAGINA IS WORTHLESS
# HIDE YOUR WEALTH
# MAN OUTEmpty chair and ghost the f~~~ers!
So testosterone Makes you look like M&M and a rapper with a Hoodie?
From the article: Increased levels of testosterone in boys can contribute to greater anger and aggression. Photograph: Thinkstockhttps://www.irishtimes.com/life-and-style/health-family/ask-the-expert-my-12-year-old-boy-has-become-angry-overnight-1.2283657Love this:Q In the past two months, my 12-year-old boy seems to have turned from a sweet and loving child who used to ask me if he could help me with anything into an aggressive and angry boy. He still looks like a little boy but his personality has changed completely. Everything is a problem for him; he won’t lift a finger to help and he provokes his younger brother and sister.The final straw was when I tried to intervene in a physical fight with his brother and he pushed me hard against the wall. I went mad and refused to talk to him for a day until he apologised, which he finally did, but only because he wanted me to pay for his end-of-school trip, which I felt I couldn’t refuse. In the past I tried taking away the phone and computer (he is always glued to both of them), and he just said “Fine” and seemed willing to sit it out, so I ended up caving in.He has lots of good friends he has known since Junior Infants, and he is out with them all day. I want him to be happy, but I just can’t make him understand how much his attitude and behaviour are affecting the rest of us. I know I should expect some change with his age but this seems so sudden and I’m worried that I might be missing something.I’m going to save you the click:Adolescence brings a period of quite intense interacting physical, emotional, social and cognitive (thinking) changes. The release of hormones is responsible for the physical changes and, in boys, increased levels of testosterone can contribute to greater anger and aggression. You say your boy looks quite young, and maybe this is affecting his confidence and self-esteem.Brain development can also, in part, explain typical adolescent behaviour. Research has shown that during this period the parts of the brain associated with impulsivity, novelty-seeking, emotionality and self-consciousness are in overdrive while the areas that direct self-control and rational thought are still under construction. It does all eventually reach an equilibrium but for the first few years the “out of sync” brain can lead to flashes of anger, intense emotions and reckless behaviour.The basicsSome practical things that are often overlooked are the basics of food, sleep and exercise. If your boy is out with his friends all day, is he eating properly? Make sure he has snacks, fruit and drinks so that he doesn’t get hungry and grumpy.Sleep, or lack of sleep, is also a major issue in adolescents. Brain changes make them naturally want to go to bed later, but if he’s getting up early in the morning, or on a screen during the night, he may not be getting enough sleep.With regard to exercise, you say he is with his friends all day, but what is he up to? Too little or too much exercise may affect his mood. Another issue to consider is the sometimes daunting prospect of the move to secondary school and the natural anxieties and worries that can come with this.Screen timeIf your son has a phone and internet access, you might need to think about what he is watching and the amount of screen time he has.Online bullying can happen almost silently and it’s always worth checking out whether this is an issue. Even if it’s all very innocent, the constant flow of information and comments doesn’t allow the child any downtime, which can affect their mood. Adolescents do not generally have the self-control to impose their own boundaries on screen time, so parents should help with this.Clear responseIt can be hard to think of a reasonable reaction or sanction on the spot when you’re completely thrown by the event, but it’s possible that the lack of a clear response is actually allowing his behaviour to escalate.The aim should always be to promote and reward positive behaviour rather than using sanctions, but you generally need something in your back pocket with a challenging teenager.Set out clearly in advance what will happen if he hits his siblings or pushes you in future; a specific time-limited removal of screen time for 24 hours might be appropriate. If he argues, it goes up to 48 hours.If he refuses to hand them over, stay calm and wait for an opportunity to take them for the agreed time. Hand them back only when the time is up. If there is a parent or partner available, make sure that they are completely on board as the best of plans can fall apart if you don’t have a united front.Any changes should be set against a background of ongoing communication and keeping the “airwaves” open with your child. You may find that it’s a bit of a one-sided conversation at times, but make sure to listen and encourage them to talk.Pick a calm moment to discuss events and see what’s going on for him. A motorway journey is always good for talking; they can’t escape, neither of you has to look at each other and you can turn the radio on if the conversation dries up.There is possibly nothing sinister about this situation and it may simply be part of the normal spectrum of teenage years and adolescence. However, keep a general eye on mood and if you continue to be worried don’t be afraid to ask for professional help or advice through your GP.Dr Sarah O’Doherty is a child clinical psychologist.WHY THE F~~~ WOULD YOU NOT ASK ABOUT DAD? OH YEA!!! FORGOT! Nothing about sports. Nothing about having him go work out. WTF???Notice NO WHERE does this woman say, “ask his father, maybe he can help, or talk to his grandfather, etc.Just makes me sick.There is a methodology being followed here.
They want to neuter and castrate men, physically. They are aligning their ‘experts’ to make claims that man, being a man, having testosterone, is a memtal comdition, a disability, a danger to society. They are laying the groundwork.Agreed, I just disagree thay they are “laying the groundwork”. It was already laid. Now they are pushing for the normalization of the “groundwork”.
Watch it for the next few days. There will be another claim of that, and the push for it to become legislation that you can drug a boy, until he complies. F~~~ if his brain will get fried on the process, vagina is the ultimate behavior, and we all should become like women."Young was I once, I walked alone, and bewildered seemed in the way; then I found me another and rich I thought me, for man is the joy of man." Odin, Hàvamàl, stanza 47.
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