Before and After

[Truthseeker82Participant 6406]

There is a life before marriage. One that is an open door of opportunity to pursue a man’s dreams and to build his prosperity. He can go where he wants, when he wants, with whoever he wants. When that man says “I do” – he is really saying “I die” – because that is what happens to your spirit. I remember that man – it was me. I believed in myself, enjoyed my freedom. Did not work my ass off for anyone else except me. Now a year later (yes only a year), that person is just a ghost. Add to this taking on another man’s teenage daughter (he is out of her life in another country so it all falls on me) and I’m broke. Why? Because women know how to draw you in. Until you swallow the red pill and see through the disguise. For me that came exactly 3 months into my marriage. And every day has been an emotional rollercoaster since then. My lawyer says after one year and no kids, I can get out now and very easy for only a few thousand. But I am 55 and she is 32 – hot and weighs 124 lbs in a world where most women today are bigger than cattle and growing. So I stay. But for how long I don’t know. Marriage: In the end my opinion of it is this: If you want to put your b~~~~ in a vice, there are better ways to do it and it will probably be quicker and less painful than enduring a wife.

[Jon the Ex-SquidParticipant 298]

So you’re staying because she’s attractive? That’s an investment with diminishing returns. Her looks will fade and the longer you’re together, the deeper those claws sink into your wallet. If you wait to divorce when she’s older and less attractive, you’ll be in your 60s, broke, and trying to start over again. Not a good place to be.

[HitmanParticipant]

Cut her ass off soon as you can! A few thousand ain’t much..longer you wait more it costs…

[megatoad69Participant 449]

If you are having these thoughts now, and you are posting here, it don’t matter how much younger she is or how hot she is.
Some berries and mushrooms are pretty too, but you aren’t going to eat all of them because they look pretty.

I Die.
lol 🙂 🙂

You can't reason with unreasonable, there; women, figured out, there is nothing to reason.

[ILiveAgainParticipant]

Nothing good will come of this. You are trapped in a relationship of diminishing returns.

If you stay …. no matter how hard you try … you will become resentful.

This will do nobody any good. Not your wife, step daughter and yourself.

There will be life after this …. and with a little time …. a very good life.

Take heed from the others here. They have no agenda …. only your health and happiness.

[AncientwisdomParticipant 6089]

Personally speaking, I would like to hear more about your situation.

Until you swallow the red pill and see through the disguise. For me that came exactly 3 months into my marriage. And every day has been an emotional rollercoaster since then.

So what was your red pill moment and in what way did it alter your relationship? Three months in seems rather fast. What was the relationship like prior to this?

Resident cynic.

[foolsgoldParticipant 5645]

Whoa dude. Get out now!! None of us in these forums stand to gain anything by giving you bad advice. I consider myself lucky. Mine threw me out. My ex WAS hot as hell. Former competitive figure skater. Her looks diminished the second we tied the knot. Again, we have nothing to gain in these forums accept helping others. Get out as soon as possible. You won’t regret it.

[FrankOneParticipant 1417]

I would ask her to get a job and/or cut spending to near zero, if you’re broke, tell her you have to plan for your retirement. Can you provide some more details? If she isn’t willing to pull her weight, RUN.

[Biggvs_DickvsParticipant 3725]

The good news is: You made it here. Having a support network, even one as ethereal as online forum, will be of great value.

The hard part will be getting away. You’re having doubts this early on so you know it won’t end well. If the roller coaster thing is true, it sounds like she’s not going to ever be able to offer much good company other than a decent lay, and we both know that’s on a countdown.

I think the sooner you get out the better. A situation like this will only get worse over time and I’m sure you feel that. Just remember, if you do manage to get up the courage to do the right thing and file for divorce, she will likely use every trick in the book to get you back.

"Data, I would be delighted to offer any advice I can on understanding women. When I have some, I'll let you know." --Captain Picard,

[PhantomParticipant 3328]

Truthseeker82 wrote:

and I’m broke

That’s when it’s good….wait until you are in the hole, debt up to your eye b~~~~ & or she goes bat s~~~ nuts. Even I wouldn’t have believed the last female I was ever with, could have been capable of what she put me through (and we weren’t even married)…never more wrong have I ever been in my life.

[Anonymous 42]

Dude man, That’s your insides speaking to you! If she sees you’re ready to abandon ship, she may get a bad case of baby rabies! THEN WHAT! I’ll tell ya what,,, it’s your ass quartered, skinned, and your hide hanging on her wall! Don’t ignore that little voice inside you, listen to the voices of reason, they’ll never steer you wrong! The Wall belongs to her, either your hide will hang on it, or she will hit it, like millions of others.
The WALL is there never the less, let her hit it, or hang from it yourself after being skinned and killed! In that order, SKINNED then KILLED!

[Robert HallamParticipant 696]

For me that came exactly 3 months into my marriage. And every day has been an emotional rollercoaster since then.

My god man. What the hell could have happened in three months? Did she show her real colours? Sounds to me that your new wife and step daughter have teamed up to screw you but good. It also sounds like you are nothing more now than a door mat. If it got that bad in three months it will get even worse in the next three months and the six months after that. Get the hell out.

[ShinyParticipant 2307]

She’s 32 with a teenage daughter? Ouch…

Truthseeker82 wrote:

There is a life before marriage. One that is an open door of opportunity to pursue a man’s dreams and to build his prosperity. He can go where he wants, when he wants, with whoever he wants. When that man says “I do” – he is really saying “I die” – because that is what happens to your spirit.

Amen. My dad (when I knew him) was a quiet, stay at home man with a man-cave he practically lived in. When he was in the house, it was only to say, “yes dear” to my mother.

Before marriage (before I knew him of course) he had a pilot’s license & flew Tiger Moths, raced bikes, had a boat and sailed. Could do anything with his hands, invented things, mastered an almost endless number of trades. He had a life.

Then he got married, and that was it.

Sounds like you still have a chance, brother. Don’t end up regretting not taking it.

[Truthseeker82Participant 6406]

Thanks for the support, brothers. Reading your comments only solidifies what I always knew – marriage is a s~~~ty deal for men at its best and a slow death. Time to pull the black and yellow eject handle – and bail out of this sinking ship called matrimony. Peace.

[Truthseeker82Participant 6406]

So what was your red pill moment and in what way did it alter your relationship? Three months in seems rather fast. What was the relationship like prior to this?

The holidays. That’s when the fangs come out under stress. I was humiliated, cursed at, screamed at and had car keys tossed in my direction for starters. We only dated a few months. So of course during that time, and her being 32, knock out figure, cute and available, she pushed sex at me. When you’re 53, a 32 year old seems as far from the “wall” as you’re likely to get. Most of the women my age or even a bit younger were bitter, dried up old hags that could not fit their fat asses in a F-150 pick up, let alone their own c~~~-mobiles.. So I fell for it. Ignoring the red flags – like her being a single mom (HUGE red flag) with no family in proximity and no support or involvement from the father (another monster of a red flag) – I invited her and her daughter to move in with me. I popped the question (Shame on me). Married a month later. Then once she “had” me – things started to change. She gained nearly 20 lbs, cut her hair shorter, showed me her true side. When I complained about it to her, she eased up on the throttle a bit, grew her hair back, shed 10 lbs – I believe primarily because I told her I would not put up with that s~~~ in my home. Either way, after this marital contract is dissolved, NEVER again will I sign my life away to anyone nor let the a government that cannot even handle its own s~~~ hold me hostage. Marriage is of no benefit to men whatsoever.
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[Deus Ex MachinaParticipant 1068]

Get out of it Bud.

You’re NOT getting a great return on your investment, yeah sure a young piece of ass is nice, however there isn’t much she’s bringing to the table. If you can divorce for a few thousand, DO IT.

I can assure you, that if you stay, things will only go from bad to worse. She’ll start putting more demands, treating sex as treat, and try and alienate you from close family members and friends.

Leave the sinking ship now!!!.

"If You have the Tooth of a Whale, You must have the Whale's Jaw to hold it". (i.e. One Must have the right qualifications for leadership) -Hawaiian Proverb

[YAZParticipant 140]

My divorce had been final for five months when I met this cute ‘lil professor who also worked part time in a women’s apparel retail outlet in the high end of town……..and a nice apartment in the high end of town also…..and drove a decent car.

A holder of a higher education that was actually a trainer of teachers and a Master’s in Educational Policy working in retail?

A few glasses of wine in her and I got her to spill her guts after she expressed her desire to marry me after a few good romps in the hay. She was advised by her accountant to declare bankruptcy.

Sayonara, babe.

Find another ATM.

I’m buying a Jeep. Much more satisfying than supporting a vagina owner’s bad spending habits.

Fat fifty somethings still give head though. Just dim the lights.

Whore Magnet

[Anonymous 42]

YAZ wrote:

Fat fifty somethings still give head though. Just dim the lights.

lol, GOOD ONE!

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