Anyone MGTOW without having dated?

[Helen be DamnedParticipant 480]

So I really don’t want to sound like a jerk after seeing some of your stories (as well as those in my own life,) but am I the only one who hasn’t had a s~~~ty relationship with a woman? Granted, that’s because I haven’t had anything exceeding “friendship.” Seriously, did anyone else come to the conclusion without dating/marrying a c~~~?

"You can keep your soul, I don't want a cell-mate." - Them Crooked Vultures

[Anonymous 1]

I did.

I never dated… EVER. And even when it comes to sex, I only had with prostitutes so far.

So I guess I became Mgtow more through observation then by experience…

You don’t need to go through a relationship to see how demanding it is to man, just look at those that are already in one.

😀

[Anonymous 1]

Anonymous wrote:

I did. I never dated… EVER. And even when it comes to sex, I only had with prostitutes so far. So I guess I became Mgtow more through observation then by experience… You don’t need to go through a relationship to see how demanding it is to man, just look at those that are already in one.

I agree with you.  There are many things that we don’t have to personally go through to get the full effect and relationship is one of them.  I am 27 and I have only been involved with one girl starting from last year when I was 26.  I hold it off for so long because I saw how much of a burden women was by other people relationship.  I consider us the lucky few that did not have to face the bullsh*t of women to turn to MGTOW.  I can’t imagine going through what half of the men on here went through.

[BeerParticipant 11832]

Anonymous wrote:

I agree with you. There are many things that we don’t have to personally go through to get the full effect and relationship is one of them. I am 27 and I have only been involved with one girl starting from last year when I was 26. I hold it off for so long because I saw how much of a burden women was by other people relationship. I consider us the lucky few that did not have to face the bullsh*t of women to turn to MGTOW. I can’t imagine going through what half of the men on here went through.

I’m with ya on this one.  I’ve dated a bunch of girls that for one reason or another never turned into anything more than a date or a few dates, have had a few relationships, but have never been engaged/married.  Its kind of funny that when you go a while with no sex, the next time you think you’ve found a girl with some potential and have sex with her its like YESSSSSSSSSS BEST DAY EVER.  Fast forward a few months and you remember why you broke up with the last one…the sex ultimately isn’t worth the drama, the bulls~~~, and the nonstop headache.  Its like soon as they think they got you hooked with regular sex, the other foot lands, and you immediately start thinking wtf did I get myself in to?  At this point though, I’m pretty glad none of them were smart enough to try to hook me with marriage before activating c~~~ mode.

[Knightfall82Participant 36]

I watched nearly every man in my family go through all kinds of f~~~ed up s~~~ at the hands of the women in their lives.

Not one female in my family are with the man they had children with and Almost every married man I know has told me to never get married or have children. I listened to them.

I have never been in a real relationship and I have never had sex. It does bother me sometimes and I get lonely, but loneliness is nothing next to having your whole world ripped apart, ending up living alone anyway and your children taken or even turned against you.

[RoyDalParticipant]

BadKan is the smart one in this crew. I went through a very long blue pill phase where too much of my energy was devoted to getting dates. Oh well, I learned and am alive and infection free, so all ended well.

Society asks MGTOWs: Why are you not making more tax-slaves?

[FullMetalExoParticipant 2383]

1 date only.

…and  I didn’t write back after.  Forgot, I did write back, a month later, in short my message was “Naah’.

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[KeymasterKeymaster]

Beer wrote:

you think you’ve found a girl with some potential and it’s YESSSSSSSSSS BEST DAY EVER.  Fast forward a few months and you remember why you broke up with the last one…

Roger that.

In recent years, if I were in a dry period, I might think something was missing.
But in as little as two weeks I would wish to be rid of her.

If you keep doing what you've always done... you're gonna keep getting what you always got.

[LiveFreeParticipant 172]

@BadKan: Are you me? I once had an escort fall in love with me though. I got free sex for a week until I had to leave the country I was visiting at the time on a work assignment. She even came to the airport to see me off.

For every man truly going his own way, some woman, somewhere, has to pay her own way through life.

[BeerParticipant 11832]

LiveFree wrote:

@BadKan: Are you me? I once had an escort fall in love with me though. I got free sex for a week until I had to leave the country I was visiting at the time on a work assignment. She even came to the airport to see me off.

Something tells me she was from a poor country, and you are from US, Canada, Australia, or another decent place and she just wanted to marry you to get out of the dump:P

[LiveFreeParticipant 172]

@beer: Partly correct… she was from a former soviet republic. No, she didn’t want to marry me. A colleague of mine at the time jokingly asked her if she wanted to marry me. She asked him if he wanted to marry her. She knew it wasn’t to be. I don’t read too much into it.

For every man truly going his own way, some woman, somewhere, has to pay her own way through life.

[Anonymous 1]

RoyDal wrote:

BadKan is the smart one in this crew

Thanks, but it does comes with a price, at least for me.

And the price is, I am a little touchy when it comes to open relationships, or sex overall. My main issue is what I thought sex was about and what sex really is about don’t “match”.

I actually wrote a post about this on the “Open marriage” thread. 🙂

@livefree

I am your clone! BWAHUAUAUAHUAHUAHA

Well, nah, not really.

LiveFree wrote:

I once had an escort fall in love with me though. I got free sex for a week until I had to leave the country I was visiting at the time on a work assignment. She even came to the airport to see me off.

You know, I would not have a “relationship” with a escort (not saying you did), but I would definitely appreciate the free sex.

[LiveFreeParticipant 172]

@BadKan:

“I would definitely appreciate the free sex.”

That’s exactly what it was for me. Anyways, that was back in 2000. I haven’t used escort services since.

For every man truly going his own way, some woman, somewhere, has to pay her own way through life.

[BONEParticipant 448]

I’ve never had any “serious” relationship or sex, maybe one or two girlfriends but I was so clueless and didn’t know what the hell I was doing, also thanks to my c~~~ of a stepmother who treated me like s~~~ I was developing a bad taste in my mouth for women as early as 15 years old, most of my bullies growing up as a child were……you guessed it, WOMEN. As far as “dating” goes, I’ve never been on an actual date with a girl before, the word “DATE” creates tons of pressure for me to begin with which is why most women I talk to leave my ass no problem when I tell them I ain’t with that dating s~~~. What’s so wrong with just sitting at home, watching some movies while eating chicken fries then have a little sex?

[VictorParticipant 124]

I partly fall into this category – but I am not strictly MGTOW, as I feel a strong emotional connection to women and would like to date and marry a woman and have a family.

Slightly off-topic, but I think a useful course way back in high school would have been something like: ‘Understanding Women’, the content of which would be something along the lines of the best posts on this forum.  It’s something that should be taught by our fathers, but isn’t – for fairly obvious reasons, as most are indoctrinated themselves.

If I had known all this MGTOW stuff 20 years ago, my life would be completely different now.  My view is that if boys grew up with a proper understanding of women and girls – or at least a foundation for an understanding – there probably wouldn’t be anywhere near as much need for things like courts and mental health services.

[BeerParticipant 11832]

@victor – I agree with you, maybe not so much on the marriage part, but I still like to date women and would like to have kids.  I just look at MGTOW as knowledge.  I’m not going to blindly get involved with a woman, andits nice to know how society works and how the typical woman plays the game so you don’t end up mentally and financially ruined like so many other men.  I’m especially not going to compromise my wants and my goals to put a woman first.

They want equality, I’m more than happy to give that to them.  If I can find one that wants to walk with me cool, but I’m not going to be a sucker and carry one.  If a relationship is a team I want someone capable of playing in the same league, and if I can’t find that I’m not going to sweat it…it just means I have more time and money for other interests and hobbies.

[VictorParticipant 124]

@beer – Yes, I think you’ve got what I’m driving at.  I’m not going to attach a label to myself as real life is too complex to justify that.  As I see it, MGTOW is about knowledge and education.  It’s not an identity, it’s more a source of wisdom.  All boys and men should receive this education.  It doesn’t (and shouldn’t) rule out relationships and marriage with women, but would save a lot of trouble for both sexes.  If I’d had this knowledge twenty years ago, I would not have grown-up into such a shy and frightened person.  It does make me angry the way that society lies and deceives people.  Make no mistake, all of this nonsense of putting women on a pedestal is officially sanctioned, through schools, government and the media.  It serves a purpose in keeping men in line.

[EnlightenedMGTOWParticipant 291]

Victor wrote:

@beer – Yes, I think you’ve got what I’m driving at. I’m not going to attach a label to myself as real life is too complex to justify that. As I see it, MGTOW is about knowledge and education. It’s not an identity, it’s more a source of wisdom. All boys and men should receive this education. It doesn’t (and shouldn’t) rule out relationships and marriage with women, but would save a lot of trouble for both sexes. If I’d had this knowledge twenty years ago, I would not have grown-up into such a shy and frightened person. It does make me angry the way that society lies and deceives people. Make no mistake, all of this nonsense of putting women on a pedestal is officially sanctioned, through schools, government and the media. It serves a purpose in keeping men in line.

I  disagree with this. MGTOW is what you make of it. For some, it defines them and for others, it doesn’t. For some it rules out relationships and marriage with women, for some it doesn’t. I am not going your way or the way of any other member on this site. I’m going my way and I am free to interpret the information provided on this site in any manner I see fit. While there are basic tenants that the vast majority of MGTOW agree on based on the over-whelming statistics, anecdotal evidence and cost-benefit analysis, each MGTOW is free to do as and think as he sees fit.

Marriage is the disease, divorce is the cure. MGTOW is the vaccine.

[SolipsisticParticipant 6]

Beer wrote:

If I can find one that wants to walk with me cool, but I’m not going to be a sucker and carry one. If a relationship is a team I want someone capable of playing in the same league.

@beer, I felt the exact same way before I met my last ex. Boy was I naive.

 

[UKMGTOWParticipant 3]

Me too. The funny thing is that if a woman or blue pill guy read that he’d say something like “haha loser, virgin, you can’t get girls”. But then you think hang on a minute why do I think like this, oh yeh coz women have programmed it into me and shamed me through media.

Its as if everyone has to be programmed so that they don’t see behind the curtain and what women really are.

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