Another marriage nightmare…

[BeerParticipant 11832]

Ran into a blue piller co worker today from a past job that I hadn’t seen in almost a year. The guy is mid 40s now. He married his high school sweetheart, was married for over 20 years, and had two kids who are now both high school age. Recently they inherited a house from one of his relatives that had passed, and they decided to sell it. She blew through the 170k they got for the house…bought herself a new Mercedes and went on a massive shopping spree spending the rest of the 170k and dipping into other savings they had.

Right around the time he was going insane she had blew through so much money she informed him she wanted a divorce because he didn’t make enough money, even though he makes about 20k a year more then she does, and he’s been working for the same company since before they married, so why the hell is it all the sudden a problem? He said f~~~ you c~~~, I’m out…she got the house, the kids, whatever other money they had left which I don’t think was much at that point, and the only thing he fought for was his pension and he got 100% of that because he had at least kept records of all the big purchases she made over the last few months for herself and the judge took some pity on him. I’m not even sure if child support was involved, but if it was I don’t think he was too concerned about it as his youngest will be 18 in 2-3 years anyhow.

What the f~~~ did marriage do for this man? Six months ago he was on top of the world…thought he had a wife he loved that loved him back, 2 kids, a paid off house, a few hundred thousand in the bank, dual incomes, and was well on his way to a nice pension and a cozy retirement. Then the c~~~ wrecked everything…now he’s mid 40s with no cash, living in a slummy apartment trying to start again when he was just about at a point where he just had to coast across the finish line as he was set up fairly nicely. He always seemed like a pretty level headed dude, I seriously doubt he abused her or did anything to push her over the edge…she just flipped her s~~~ and all he could do was grab his ankles. She called him shortly before the divorce was final, was crying she was broke, and begged him for forgiveness and wanted to get back together, and he wisely told her to f~~~ off. Apparently she thought she was missing something better, and realized before the divorce was even final that her SMV as a post wall, broke, middle aged mother of 2 was so low you’d have to dig a hole to measure it.

I just can’t imagine why the f~~~ anyone would get married these days. My state has no common law marriage…this guy literally could have kept her at girlfriend status all this time, and when she went insane he could have told her to f~~~ off and all she could have fought for was child support…instead it probably cost him in the ballpark of a half million and now he has to start from scratch in his mid 40s. F~~~ that.

[shadowParticipant 156]

Wow, a highschool sweetheart, only to turn to this. As soon as I read the part saying she went on shopping spree and bought Mercedes I cringed. What a complete f~~~ing idiot! The dude seems pretty put together though just saying f~~~ it, he knows he can thrive himself doesn’t need some dumbass bitch with 0 money management skills.

I wish they taught this more in school , it is so neglected probably for reason no one will mention, teaching the value of assets and investments needs vs want. Need to be more like the Asian culture.

Just wow man thank you for this story great wisdom for a young chap like me. My dad is a simp so I never learned any of this until I discovered this site and gems like this.

[RoyDalParticipant]

Beer wrote:

he blew through the 170k they got for the house…bought herself a new Mercedes and went on a massive shopping spree spending the rest of the 170k and dipping into other savings they had.

Holy catfish! This is uglier than a mud fence!

Society asks MGTOWs: Why are you not making more tax-slaves?

[Truthseeker82Participant 6406]

This is just another example of how dangerous marriage has become in the western world. It is total insanity that this reckless woman would have gotten anything other than a parting salute with middle finger extended from her spouse…instead the courts reward her s~~~ty behavior. Think before you sign that contract men…..please. Even if you think you have caught the enigmatic unicorn, this is a living testament to the plain truth…they don’t exist. They can turn on you faster than the Chicago weather in May.

[WallyParticipant]

I think this is more cautionary tale than a lot we read. Often the stories we read on here the women hold it together for 3-6 months or shortly after the marriage. For 20 or more years this gentleman had built a life then she dropped the hammer, she always had the gun to his head and finally pulled the trigger.

"what a waste of a life, to marry, give up your freedom, just for the hope of not dying alone. Don't get married Son."

[Crazy CanuckMember 4215]

This is why being invisible to women is ideal even if you are a millionaire. Drive an average car, live in an apartment or average house. Wear clothes that looks average and women won’t usually bother you.

"If pussy was a stock it would be plummeting right now because you've flooded the market with it. You're giving it away too easy." - Dave Chapelle

[Anonymous 6]

Well for one he shouldn’t have gave her any of the 170K, maybe small allowances that’s about it.

[RoyDalParticipant]

Crazy Canuck wrote:

This is why being invisible to women is ideal even if you are a millionaire. Drive an average car, live in an apartment or average house. Wear clothes that looks average and women won’t usually bother you.

True! True! True!

Anonymous wrote:

Well for one he shouldn’t have gave her any of the 170K, maybe small allowances that’s about it.

This would have precipitated the inevitable (inevitable, meaning it’s going to happen no matter what he does) divorce long before he was so deeply enmeshed in his children (they wouldn’t have been born yet). It is totally possible she would have dumped him before their (he buys, she owns) house was an issue either.

Society asks MGTOWs: Why are you not making more tax-slaves?

[BeerParticipant 11832]

Truthseeker82 wrote:

This is just another example of how dangerous marriage has become in the western world. It is total insanity that this reckless woman would have gotten anything other than a parting salute with middle finger extended from her spouse…instead the courts reward her s~~~ty behavior. Think before you sign that contract men…..please. Even if you think you have caught the enigmatic unicorn, this is a living testament to the plain truth…they don’t exist. They can turn on you faster than the Chicago weather in May.

Seriously…he had kept records of her major purchases, it was obvious she wanted to waste as much of their money as she could before the split because she’d rather waste it on herself then split it 50/50. You would think in a fair society, the judge would recognize this, and say listen c~~~ bag, considering how much money you dumped on yourself in the last few months, which was obviously a thought out and planned behavior as it didn’t match your behavior over the last 20 years, you have already received your share of the divorce settlement, the guy gets the house and you get to f~~~ off…but nah, instead she still got the bulk of their remaining assets.

Crazy Canuck wrote:

This is why being invisible to women is ideal even if you are a millionaire. Drive an average car, live in an apartment or average house. Wear clothes that looks average and women won’t usually bother you.

I don’t know…I’ve found lately that I kind of enjoy dropping little hints like I’m raking in the cash…but they aren’t going to see any of it. Its kind of like a little buzz every time you get to dangle that carrot in front of a chick knowing she’ll never get any of it…it must be what it feels like to be a hot 20 something year flirting with a guy you have no interest in just to tease him. Slightly demented….probably….but man is it fun!

Anonymous wrote:

Well for one he shouldn’t have gave her any of the 170K, maybe small allowances that’s about it.

Its kind of tough to tell a wife of 20+ years who previously had decent spending habits and never gave any hints that she wanted a divorce that you would be taking inheritance money and putting it into a separate account she has no legal claim to though. Even if he did these type of lump sum windfalls still generally aren’t safe in divorce unless it was in a prenup, and even then it still may not be safe. But yeah…I agree with you…he would have been much better off simply not being married and maintaining separate finances, and whatever he wanted to share from that inheritance would have been a gift, she never would have had access to it or any legal claim to it post split…its just a good reminder for those of us who haven’t married yet. Stay that way gentlemen.

[TaxGuyParticipant]

Wally wrote:

I think this is more cautionary tale than a lot we read. Often the stories we read on here the women hold it together for 3-6 months or shortly after the marriage. For 20 or more years this gentleman had built a life then she dropped the hammer, she always had the gun to his head and finally pulled the trigger.

Wally, dead on. Think about it. 20 years is about 7,300 days. She had the gun in her hand for 7,300 days. For 7,299 of them she did not pull the trigger. But on the 7,300th day she did. On any one of those days, the odds that she would pull the trigger that day were almost zero. But the odds that she will EVENTUALLY pull the trigger are almost 100%.

I wonder if she knew about the inheritance and waited out the death of his family member. No, that’s mean, women aren’t like that. At least not ALL women are like that………………

And women wonder where all the good men are.

Order the good wine

[Anonymous 18]

Let’s get real. She spent 170$ because over 20 years he let himself get neutered.

Then she divorced him.

Women are creatures of opportunity. They stick around in a relationship so long there is resistance to their childish whims. Once a man gives in she is off to a more convoluted branch.

[MalfunctionNeedInputParticipant 257]

Holy f~~~ that sucks…It seems to me that if you’re married, get divorced ASAP to minimize the potential loss in the future that she’ll bring upon you. My wife did me a favor as I’m only 31…That dude is even closer to retirement.

It’s funny when women realize all their entitlement does is allow them to act like fools and upon realizing it, they’ve gone so far, there’s no going back and they end up ruining their lives and those around them. Picking up the pieces? Jeez, that’s putting it nicely for that bitch.

The important thing is not to stop questioning. Curiosity has its own reason for existing. One cannot help but be in awe when he contemplates the mysteries of eternity, of life, of the marvelous structure of reality. It is enough if one tries merely to comprehend a little of this mystery every day. Never lose a holy curiosity. --Einstein

[OgreParticipant 5863]

The real kicker is that had he not married all of those years ago, how much more money would have been in the nest egg that she blew? He could have lived a much more modest lifestyle instead of having to make sure that she had the best of everything that he could afford. If you factor in all of those choices she probably actually screwed him out of well over 750K over the 20 years. That’s just based off of the most recent shopping spree and a difference of 25K a year between his ideal lifestyle and the one she forced him to live to keep her “Happy”. If he compromised more, or even worse was one of those saps that gets an allowance each week, then he really never even saw the truck that hit him coming.

I failed to realize in my youth that I was the prize. I was going to work. I was going to earn. Little did I realize that due to feminism, that no longer meant I had to share. Road soon, Desert after.

[BeeParticipant 700]

I have a little bit similar situation….
I inherited some money. I tried to keep Iit secret but finally had to come clean. I paid off a car, the 2nd loan on the house, 17k of her cc debt, 4k of mine, bought an old truck… there is not much left.
This was fossil money. Wealth saved over generations.

[Elric GreenstoneParticipant 1637]

shadow wrote:

a highschool sweetheart

When I was younger, and rather more stupid than I am now, I was very upset that I didn’t have a high school sweetheart. The kind that one stuck with through college, then married and made babies. I thought to myself “Self, if we had met the right girl in high school, it would have been different.”

Hahahahahahahahahahaha.

Every high school sweetheart story I’ve heard of in people younger than 70 ends just like that one. Every single story. Every one.

TaxGuy wrote:

Wally, dead on. Think about it. 20 years is about 7,300 days. She had the gun in her hand for 7,300 days. For 7,299 of them she did not pull the trigger. But on the 7,300th day she did. On any one of those days, the odds that she would pull the trigger that day were almost zero. But the odds that she will EVENTUALLY pull the trigger are almost 100%.

The question is not if a modern woman will go feral, but when.

"You can either love women, or understand women. You can't do both. Because once you understand women, you realize that there is really nothing to love."

[BeerParticipant 11832]

MalfunctionNeedInput wrote:

Holy f~~~ that sucks…It seems to me that if you’re married, get divorced ASAP to minimize the potential loss in the future that she’ll bring upon you. My wife did me a favor as I’m only 31…That dude is even closer to retirement.

I’m 31 as well…and when I was younger I thought I’d eventually get married. However, I now think like you do. Had I married at 20-25 and divorced by 30 I’d still have plenty of time to recover, and I didn’t have much in terms of assets when I was that young so really as far as a divorce goes that is the least painful time, which is probably why I didn’t realize marriage was such a terrible deal when I was younger.

But now that I’m a little older, I’ve had more time to build my wealth, work my way into a better paying job, and I’m closer to retirement, so I have quite a bit more to lose now than I did 10 years ago. Plus, considering how most people around my age are with money, she’d be bringing debt with her. It just doesn’t make sense that if I took a gamble on marriage and it didn’t work out it turns into a pay day for her and a penalty for me.

Its comical how the whole system works…between 20 and 30 I went from wanting to get married to f~~~ no, I’ll never get married, and during that same time period women go from I’m riding the carousel now maybe I’ll get married some day to OMFG MARRY ME NOW BABY RABIES TIME when they hit the wall. You ask a 20 year old college chick what she thinks about being a stay at mom and she’ll act like its slavery…ask her the same question 10 years later when she’s stuck in a dead end job still paying off her student loans and she’ll realize sahm mom is the jackpot. Too late ladies, the guys at that point have realized a sahm mom is an anchor and an extra big payday on divorce day.

Elric Greenstone wrote:

When I was younger, and rather more stupid than I am now, I was very upset that I didn’t have a high school sweetheart. The kind that one stuck with through college, then married and made babies. I thought to myself “Self, if we had met the right girl in high school, it would have been different.”

Hahahahahahahahahahaha.

Every high school sweetheart story I’ve heard of in people younger than 70 ends just like that one. Every single story. Every one.

Yeah I went through this phase as well. I had a few girls I dated in high school but nothing real serious, and I felt like I missed out on the chance of a life time. College came and went…same thing, I dated a few girls, had a couple serious girlfriends for about 6 months each, but when I was done with school, still single with no potential wifey in orbit. Only this time, I really didn’t feel like I missed out. I had more time to be out in the real world and hear quite a few divorce horror stories, and I had plenty of time in college to see what pigs most girls these days truly are. This time around I felt more like I dodge a bullet.

I definitely notice that with the older generation as well. I’ve stumbled upon a lot of 70+ year old couples over the last decade that seem to genuinely still love each other. They still go out on date nights, cook for each other, vacation together, hold hands and tell each other I love you, and they appreciate them, etc. I don’t see this in 40 and 50 year olds, they’re all either divorced at least once already, or still married but f~~~ing miserable. Its like you can pinpoint down the decade in which feminism went mainstream and the average woman started buying into it. Women simply became unmarriageable. I really don’t think men have changed much…I still want to just do the same things my grandfather did that was all fine by my grandmother…go to work and make money for the family, have some kids and be a good father, have a sweet little lady that actually respects me, be able to have an occasional guys night without it being a huge deal, and most of all, not have to think of marriage as having a loaded gun against my temple hoping she doesn’t pull the trigger…but uh, that’ll never happen with today’s women.

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