Another at the crossroads

[VoidraitheParticipant 477]

Brothers,

I have friend that rents a room from me. He needed a place in the city where he could crash in between training sessions as he works as a personal trainer. He has a wife but she lives in a very small town 150 kilometers away. Over the past year of him staying with me he’s begun to show signs of regretting the life he ended up with, working his ass off for this wife and getting s~~~ because he wasn’t around enough.

On Saturday, after I got home from a vacation I found him at my place which was unusual since he would normally be with his family. In short order he lays it out for me they are having problems so he took clients over the weekend because he didn’t want to deal with her s~~~. Later that night he informs me that now she wants a divorce. I spent the night talking with him about the issue, assuring him he has a place to stay and feeding him red pills.

Hopefully I can open his eyes, in the past he has expressed that the life I lead is what he should have done five years ago.

[MOWsince95Participant 1446]

If they’ve got no kids, best advice is that he works less (reduces income) and files to rid himself of the c~~~ before he gets deeper in the s~~~hole.  Sooner, not later.  Procrastination is his enemy.

Good that you support him thru this, and open his eyes.

If you are MGTOW when you are young you have no heart.
If you're not MGTOW when you are 20 you have no brain.

[ILiveAgainParticipant]

You mention family … so kids yes?

That’s the kicker. How is he feeling about that?

I’m really proud of you offering him a safe place …. and yourself. It is the single most important thing you can do. If he feels secure and supported … then he may just go for it….. but … it’s the kids man.

That’s how they control you … bring you back …. castrate.

Keep us in the loop please.

He has an amazing friend.

[RoyDalParticipant]

I agree with both NOWsince95 and ILiveAgain. In that vein, my college roommate’s parents divorced. His dad closed their business and declared bankruptcy. It worked for him. My roommate had to work his way through school, but he got by.

Society asks MGTOWs: Why are you not making more tax-slaves?

[WolfParticipant 890]

MOWsince95 wrote:

If they’ve got no kids, best advice is that he works less (reduces income) and files to rid himself of the c~~~ before he gets deeper in the s~~~hole.

This. The smaller the income gap between him and his wife, the less she will get. Alimony numbers are based on incomes at the time of seperation.

As others have mentioned, if there are kids, then that complicates things.

If there are kids, he should spend as much time as possible with them now. If he acts like “a man” and leaves the ex and kids in the home, while he only sees the kids a day or two per week (if that), then the precedent has been set, and that’s the long term child access he’ll get from the judge (every other weekend).

If he’s with them 50% of the time while awaiting a divorce court hearing, then that increases his chances of getting a long term 50% co parenting arrangement from the court. However, there are no guarantees.

 

[VoidraitheParticipant 477]

Earlier I ran out of time.

He is from the US and currently in Canada, he is worried that this is going to mess with immigration. He has said he would like to stay but with the looming divorce he isn’t sure what will become of that. He has a daughter that is biologically his that is in the US with a former girlfriend. I don’t know the situation there precisely but I was led to believe that situation has been resolved. When going through the that messy situation he met his current wife who helped and supported him during that situation. They got married. When the housing crash hit they both lost their jobs and she moved from the US into Canada because she had family here that would help. She has a daughter but it’s not his, it’s hers from a previous relationship.

He has gone through enough of the immigration process that I do not think this will hinder it (I hope) and as I stated earlier, he has my support and a place to live. I will do what I can to help him out.

I will pass along the advice here.

[WolfParticipant 890]

Just to be clear, is the matrimonial home in Canada or the US? If Canada, what province?

[VoidraitheParticipant 477]

Wolf wrote:

If Canada, what province?

Canada, Saskatchewan

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