Analisyng her behaviour

[The CaptainParticipant 133]

O.K

As i said in my introductory post, i met a girl this summer.

Just met, talked a few times and she becomes very let’s say close to me.

When she sees me she came and talk about some problem she had that i don’t care, some hobbie or some mood.

Then she goes with everybody, that’s right everybody. And hug them, dance with them, takes a lot of free drinks and some sniff.

So it wake up my curiosity how’s this girl and why on earth comes to tell me things thats i didn’t tell to my cousin, or stay around me when she is dancing and smiling with a lot of “friends”.

She had an argument-fight this Friday with other girl and started crying in the shoulders of several people i know, but again near me.

The last was that she had a problem with the booze and the police and she didn’t have money to solve it so one of his friends lend her the money.

“It’s good to have friends with money you know” (Told me)

Fed up with this stupid situation i did some reseach about her life, and found out that she wasn’t too much pretty the last year, this year it is.

Nothing from another world but tall, slim, you know..

I’d like you to share with my your opinions about this subject or if you have seen similar cases.

I’m thinking too much about this and i know that it is like being thirsty and watching a glass
with poisoned water.

I musn’t drink, but why? What are going to do the poison in my organism apart from killing me?

In short in need motivation from other points of views to dislike her knowing all the problems that i will dodge.

Apart from the ones that i know so far or i think i know.

[WarratahParticipant 895]

She sounds as though she’s surrounded by trouble of her own making.
Do you really want to be a part of that?
Do you really need somebody else bringing their s~~~ into your life?

...And in our own despair, against our will, Comes wisdom to us by the awful grace of God. - Agamemnon; by Aeschylus

[The CaptainParticipant 133]

Social prostitute Never heard it, that’s a good description: hugs for time listening, smiles, drinks, dances and some drugs, except no kisses and no sex.

Hell no WarHar.

I don’t want this kind of problems in my life.

I read somewhere that women who interact a lot with others (talking about sex) are unable to get serious bonds with one person, could that be applied to this?

[Anonymous 18]

Some women enjoy the ‘I am vulnerable, won’t you help me?’ socio-gender dynamics but they turn staunch independent and strong women once the youth fades and she is left with the raw truth of her choices and actions.

You can play along if you are capable of keeping this woman emotionally distant. If you feel a need to emotionally analyze her, then it’s not possible that you can. So show her the door.

[Solo MAN’S WisdomParticipant]

social prostitute

AKA: 1. Attention Whore. 2. Woman.

When women lead, destruction is the destination. -- Me.

[TaxGuyParticipant]

She’s a narcissist. Plain and simple. They use other people for energy. They have to flirt around so they can gauge how much energy they can steal from each person. She’s already a negative energy in your life.

If you want to watch and observe from a slight distance so you can study the behavior then go for it. But don’t let her get into your head.

I said this a week or so ago, but a narcissist is looking to start a fire. And it takes heat, fuel, and oxygen for a fire. She is the heat waiting to burn something. She needs fuel, which is anything you ever say to her. When she wants a fire, she will apply friction to what she knows about you. “Remember when you said”…. Here comes the friction. How you respond is the oxygen. If you get into a confrontation of any kind, POOF, fire. Now the heat and duration of the fire will be dictated by how long you argue and give it oxygen.

That fire will drain you of all of your energy and give it to them. It’s what they live for. The beauty of it for them is that the longer you engage (give oxygen) the weaker you get and the stronger they get. Eventually a fire can get big enough to create it’s own weather patterns.

You prevent the fire by telling them nothing they can use later to p~~~ you off, and DON’T EVER get into an argument. When they start that s~~~, just turn and walk away. And never look back.

Order the good wine

[SamsquanchParticipant 4226]

See this behavior all the time. She most likely attempted to look into herself, got frightened of what she saw and now jumps around from person to person so she doesn’t have to be alone with her thoughts. She’ll forget about you as soon as she meets you.

[JuehueParticipant 1316]

I believe Sandman called this kind of behavior Emotional Tampon.

[The CaptainParticipant 133]

Juehue wrote:

I believe Sandman called this kind of behavior Emotional Tampon.

She has several emotional tampons, but that’s not the case i won’t let her talk me more than 30 seconds about any problem she faces.

She told me something “as a secret” to not share and i tell her that i forgot it at the same time she was talking and don’t give a damn about personal issues of other people.

It’s more like Taxguy said, she goes around taking the energy from others either dancing, partying, taking rides or free stuff and sharing hugs and kisses in the cheek with every single thing with penis like she knows them for ages.

For that reason she has always at least 6 or 7 orbiters around but more than often goes to home walking alone asking for rides to people who say i’m busy but declining offers from
people who sicerily wants to take her home with no second intention.

[TaxGuyParticipant]

The Captain wrote:

Juehue wrote:

I believe Sandman called this kind of behavior Emotional Tampon.

She has several emotional tampons, but that’s not the case i won’t let her talk me more than 30 seconds about any problem she faces.

She told me something “as a secret” to not share and i tell her that i forgot it at the same time she was talking and don’t give a damn about personal issues of other people.

It’s more like Taxguy said, she goes around taking the energy from others either dancing, partying, taking rides or free stuff and sharing hugs and kisses in the cheek with every single thing with penis like she knows them for ages.

For that reason she has always at least 6 or 7 orbiters around but more than often goes to home walking alone asking for rides to people who say i’m busy but declining offers from
people who sicerily wants to take her home with no second intention.

I’ll give you another analogy. Think of her like a vampire. She can take a little bit of blood from a lot of people, or drain one dry. She’s just doing the mosquito technique until she can figure out who she can drain dry. Either way, she’s a user who brings nothing to the table for you. If you feel your energy level lower when you are done being around her, it went somewhere. If you are around your friends, good people, everyone’s energy is higher when you leave because you “fed off each other”. There’s a reason for that saying.

If you can take a step back and think about how you feel when you are around her and how you feel when she’s gone, you’ll see that she’s bad news. You don’t need to be someone else’s energy source.

Besides, cutting her loose leaves you with more free time to do things and be around people that give you energy.

Order the good wine

[experiencedParticipant]

She’s a waste of your time/energy/resources.

SARCASM: When coming upon a laydee like this, it’s important that you continue to focus on her and memories of her, no matter what. When friends communicate to you that this is not a good idea, ignore them……. no , actually actively try to drag them down as well, that way you are maximizing her destructive potential. Try to keep this topic going as long as possible. (/SARCASM)

"It seems like there's times a body gets struck down so low, there ain't a power on earth that can ever bring him up again. Seems like something inside dies so he don't even want to get up again. But he does."

[The CaptainParticipant 133]

Good analogy Tax.

I like sarcasm too experienced.

The topic has served me to learn some common patrons in order to avoid and recognize similar traps in the future, the point about what to do with this girl was pretty clear without any doubts since the first comments.

[MajinParticipant 56]

Her behavior indicates she’s not interested in some specific person, let alone you… she’s interested in collecting support – either emotional, financial or social – from whoever she can.

Put simply, she’s looking for someone to use. She was probably needy before, and now that she became hotter she also became more confident to exploit her attractiveness to get what she wants – which, again, isn’t a specific person, but people’s resources.

She’s basically a harpy that acquired sharper claws, and is now ready to use them. Don’t fall for that trap.

There's no fate but what we make for ourselves.

[Silverstone the SecondParticipant]

Drama queen, attention whore, woman.

AWALT.

It’s not a matter of IF she is, it’s a matter of HOW MUCH she is.

Feminism is a movement where opinions are presented as facts and emotions are presented as evidence.

[bigboy83Participant 11312]

What the f~~~ were you at?

High school dance.

She’s a attention whore, plain and simple.

Shit Tested, Cunt Approved.

[The CaptainParticipant 133]

bigboy83 wrote:

What the f~~~ were you at?

High school dance.

I can’t dance… but yeah, something like that.

Update:

Tonight i saw her.

I didn’t pay attention (As we talked here and remembering all the advices) i left the place immediately just saying hello and goodbye politely.

I went to another place to have fun and i did, guess what?

Two hours after that,she appeared in the place where i was with a guy in car (not a cheap one) and approached me to ask a silly question to start a conversation, i chatted a little while i watched her expressions and i thought (how can they be so fake?)

In the meantime the other guy started to make funny faces of disappointment, other poor sod to the list.

Good laughs inside, no hard feelings.

The difference between 3 days ago an now is:

That i asked the thing here, and i read and take seriously all the answers (all)

Experienced said something like “waste your time and energy and you’ll see…”

O.K i’m not wasting my time anymore i heard you, but i’m not going to change or escape from the places i use or like to go,futhermore the issue is even getting worse.

Now she wants to know why i left the place when she comes to me or why i ignore her silly blah,blah,blah and start a conversation with someone near me when she’s talking to me.

I solved it saying “I’m sorry but i have to go”

No big deal, just for today.

But i’m not going to left all the places where she appears with excuses, and i’m not going to be harsh because she’s polite, she’s could be a vampire, an attention whore… that’s correct all the points fit.

You know it and i know it.

As we talked here, i don’t want her in my life, not even for a minute.

But running from her, changing the places i like because of her presence or being someone i’m not, for a chasing attention whore?

That’s ridiculous.

I never ran from nothing i could face, but here i am now doing it because i can see the real truth (thanks to all of you) and my deep feelings boiling inside of me on the other hand.

I’m on holidays till the middle of September, so i want to enjoy my holidays.

But i recognize that i need a bottle of red pills, this is like to have problems with something and taking it step by step, one day at a time.

I don’t want to suffer anymore for something that i have the chance to avoid.

And i add more i know that i am “sick” this why i’m here, i know and understand that this thing isn’t going anywhere.

MGTOW and the community is like a hospital for me, i realize my disease and learn to cope with that, avoiding to make it worse.

But it’s hard man. Rome wasn’t built in a day.

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