After the Divorce…..

[MemberParticipant 323]

I am sure there are a lot of divorced men here that have kids with the ex wife. How do you cope with it? If you are close to your kids how do you deal with the fact that you do not get to see them every day or are kept away from them by the ex? Divorces can be really bad but nothing as bad as not being with your own child. Just looking for thoughts on how you deal with it.

[RoyDalParticipant]

I have never been married, divorced, and I don’t have kids. That said, I deal with the slings and arrows of outrageous fortune by doing deep meditation. Hope this helps. It’s all I’ve got, but it works for me.

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[foolsgoldParticipant 5657]

I work out a lot. I used to drink more just to numb the pain. That only works for a short time. Don’t do it. Not worth it. My ex used to keep me from the kids. She doesn’t anymore because she was finding it made things worse and gave her less free time. It also caused her to quit lying to her “friends”. She noticed her lies caught up to her rather quickly. She lets me handle the tougher situations that she couldn’t deal with. You never get used to not seeing your kids as much. You can thank family court for that one. The best thing I did was to find a hobby that occupies your mind. That way you don’t think about the s~~~ty deal family court deals to men as much. It beats drinking. Anything is better than that.

[revistaParticipant 232]

I was part time dad to my daughter and found it difficult so vowed if i had more kids id stick it out come what may.had two boys with someone i thought was “different”but she wasnt.tried to work at it for kids sake but women dont try as hard as men in those situations.when she split with me i was in a s~~~ place for long time.suicidal at one time.but you deal with it.the gym helped,having good friends and im in good place now.in fact i enjoy it when i havnt got kids now.put everything into kids when youve got them and enjoy yourself doing what you want to do when you havnt.all the best

[Truthseeker82Participant 6406]

Mine is grown and in med school now – so things worked out well for him. I was fortunate to have a cooperative ex wife who actually put my sons interests first. Also I got divorced in a time before the family court system became so hostile to men. That said, my advice is to let your child become your advocate. Children need their fathers – no matter how much of a bitch their mothers may try to be. Even the most hostile c~~~ will eventually see this and just like they are wired for hypergamy, they are also wired to protect their children. Hang in there, things will get better. Peace.

[UntamedParticipant]

I miss my children horribly. I cope with it by bettering myself and my living situation so that I can give them a proper welcome when they come around to visiting. I’ve been in their life as much as I was legally able to, and they know me and love me.They’re all over 18 now or pretty damn close to it so I have very little contact with the ex. I call ’em as much as I can and it helps everyone a lot.
A couple of years after the divorce, the ex said: I know you’re talking to a lawyer to take the kids. ( I never even thought of it. I didn’t want to be responsible for my children missing their mother but she was projecting ).
I told her: I don’t need a lawyer to take your kids away if I wanted to. They’ll leave you on their own accord. And I could have taken ’em half-way around the world with no legal recourse for her to take them back but I’m not that way.

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[TaxGuyParticipant]

I’m not going to lie, it is tough. But just remember your kids love you and want to spend time with you too. I think the hardest thing for me is that when you are with them you want to make sure you are making a difference in their lives but they probably just want to hang out with dad. Just remember life is a marathon not a sprint.

I hope this helps.

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[OldscoundrellParticipant 412]

If they are of an age that you can get them their own cell phone(not much older than reading level), it helps to be able to correspond with them whenever they or you want.

Most important is to enjoy your time that you have without your kids. Doing things you enjoy or/and things that are productive for a better lifestyle for yourself, which will carry over to them.

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