Advice needed for long term career/mental stability

[BrujahParticipant 579]

Some background.

I lasted 1 year in my previous job because I generally did not like the environment. A my current company where I’m almost at the 1 year mark because I THOUGHT the environment was fine.

Prior to these jobs, my longest stint at any company was 3 years.

At my current company, they pay me what I think is fair but I’m absolutely mentally drained and it’s come to a point where I almost dread coming to work. I’m extremely introverted by nature and I was not expecting such a high frequency of having to interact and manage people who otherwise have little loyalty or respect for the company, even less so for new and younger employees.

Without going into too much detail, it’s simply getting harder as we have fewer and fewer resources to work with and twice the orders coming in. Many prospects but lacking the infrastructure to properly support.

I thought maybe I wasn’t mature or disciplined enough so I went to extreme lengths to cull my hobbies and almost “blank out” my leisure time. Using what little free hours I have just to exercise and sleep. It ended up making me more miserable as a result so that went out the window quick.

In short, work life balance is kind of s~~~ but what gets to me most is the scope went for manageable even for me to way beyond what is comfortable.

I’m considering taking a lesser paying job for a peace of mind but I’m not sure if that’s such a good idea. Or should I “toughen up” and take the pain. Leaving is all well and good but I’m also concerned about the short term work history smudging my CV.

[Jan SobieskiParticipant 28791]

Is it the work or the people you work with?

There may not be a perfect fit for you. It us called work and not called fun.

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[BrujahParticipant 579]

I’m certainly not expecting to have fun. It’s more or less a blue collar job and I’m fine with it but it is more of an operational management position with the occasional physical work to “help out”.

It’s both the people and the work itself. What was suppose to be simply arranging schedules for our delivery drivers and the occasional customer service when people call in to check on timing etc, because we have such a high turnover rate, we are often left with too little drivers or workers to handle the massive amount of orders coming.

As a result, we have to squeeze the life out of the people we do have and in turn, they lash out at us because we’re the messengers. They can’t yell at management so we take the brunt.

Ideally I would not like to have to deal with people direct as it is a weakness of mine. People always say I should step out of a comfort zone but it’s a point where I’m tense everytime and my job gets harder and in turn, my tendency to push it to my supervisor.

So I’m torn between being out of a comfort zone which I guess may be beneficial in the long run versus seeking an alternative which may not drain me mentally as much but may end up being stagnant.

[xlrsnbrgParticipant 1786]

If I were you and I could get another job, I would leave.

A man shouldn't make his life's objective to be on the side of the majority, but to avoid finding himself in the ranks of the insane. (Marcus Aurelius)

[ILiveAgainParticipant]

1. Think of your physical and MENTAL wellbeing. Lose those and you’re fkd.

2. You need to sit down and be honest with yourself. Are you driven? or do you just want an easy life?

3. If driven then set up for yourself and become the boss.

4. Or just do minimum and survive so you can live for yourself with little clutter.

However, your mental health is of the utmost importance. All else comes second.

[clint englandParticipant 341]

Brother i feel your pain. I too am in a blue collar construction job in the UK and your post seems to have come at just the time i’m feeling the same way about my job.

As usual it’s the slackers where i work who are held in favour and weekends sacrificed when others are no where to be seen get forgotten about when work tightens up a little.

My own advice both for myself and you, would be if it is possible to join the slackers a little (giving yourself more time) and start either setting up your own gig in your spare time (my plan) or an escape into another more enjoyable job. It isn’t always about the money and if money is your aim, you’ll never make any real money working for a boss. Take it from someone who knows!!

We’re here for a good time, not a long time! Best of luck to you brother!

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