Advice for ghosting in big cities

[IsolatedMonkParticipant 89]

Currently, I’m living in a big city. And as soon as I pay off my college loans, I’ll be moved out of my parent’s place. What I’m wanting to know is that when I’m debt free and able to pay off my own house, will it attract more attention to me or not?

I don’t date and as far as my social life goes, I have none because I’m more of a hermit and I rather enjoy my solitude.

As for my preference to where I’d like to live, I love rural areas. However, I’m going into programming and most jobs in general are located in big city areas.

So I was wondering, for those MGTOW who have experience in living in big cities, do you gain more attention for being debt free (or close to it) and do women target you more because you’re single?

And what do you do to keep a low profile, especially in the work force. I’d love to be a manager of a large company, but if that makes me more of a target for hypergamous c~~~s, I’d rather not have that title.

[RusskyParticipant 13503]

Once you pay off your college loans, your house and become a manager of a large company – come back and we’ll talk ))

proud carrier of the 'why?' chromosome

[CaliParticipant 753]

While I can’t yet speak from experience, I can certainly give you some tips that I’ve heard.

Dress down. When you don’t have to, wear older, comfortable clothes that scream “middle class average guy”. Don’t wear such nice shoes, either. Maybe buy a used pair.

If women hitting on you becomes a problem, try getting a cheap fake wedding ring. Sometimes this works, but sometimes, they see you as a challenge, and a financially stable man.

Learn from other MGTOW how to shoot down women that try to hit on you (metaphorically, of course).

Other peeps should be around shortly to elaborate. Peace.

Just a misogynist virgin hiding away in his mother's basement. Nothing to see here...

[IsolatedMonkParticipant 89]

Russky wrote:

Once you pay off your college loans, your house and become a manager of a large company – come back and we’ll talk ))

Well I’m sure the only thing keeping me from doing that is because I still look young as f~~~. And employers don’t like employing younger people as it is. I also don’t get the snarky comment.

Cali wrote:

Dress down. When you don’t have to, wear older, comfortable clothes that scream “middle class average guy”. Don’t wear such nice shoes, either. Maybe buy a used pair.

I mainly wear t-shirts and jeans. I’ve always hated formal clothes. The only time I’d wear those is if I went to a job interview.

Cali wrote:

If women hitting on you becomes a problem, try getting a cheap fake wedding ring. Sometimes this works, but sometimes, they see you as a challenge, and a financially stable man.

I think that’ll work, at least in the work place anyway. I’ve heard of a few guys doing that.

Cali wrote:

Learn from other MGTOW how to shoot down women that try to hit on you (metaphorically, of course).

I definitely will. I’ve also started to listen to Tom Leykis as well.

[IsolatedMonkParticipant 89]

If I was doing it again….job hop…rent a small place…the smaller the better…no roommate. Bank cash.

I’d love to do that honestly. Work about 3 or 4 years and then move on over to another city. It’ll give me a chance to work in different environments as well as allowing me to travel, which I love to do.

“Thank you, but I am focused on my career right now. Good luck.”

That’s a great one. I’ve heard a guy I once knew say that and the other people called him gay behind his back.

[BoarParticipant]

Ride a bicycle. Not a $6k Trek Madone but an 90’s steel frame mountain bike or hybrid. Just throw some semi-slicks on it and ride it everywhere you can. Something that will not attract the attention of a bike thief will not attract the attention of women.

Untamed wrote: Quit complaining and Go Your Own Way in whatever manner suits you best.

[RAT-7Participant 69]

Stockpilling

Especially if inflation or spécial offer but you need space.

https://zombieprepdotnet.files.wordpress.com/2012/01/book2-preface.pdf

I swear by my life and my love of it that I will never live for the sake of a woman, nor ask a woman to live for mine.

[TaxGuyParticipant]

“I don’t date people from work.”

“I don’t fish from the corporate pond. Especially since I’m an environmentalist, meaning I’m into catch and release.”

Depending on the person, those were my two standard responses. Outside of work, it’s pretty easy to ghost because you will be around people that you aren’t going to see every day.

Work is work, I don’t s~~~ where I eat, however you want to say it, just don’t date at work and you’ll be fine.

Order the good wine

[IsolatedMonkParticipant 89]

Boar wrote:

Ride a bicycle. Not a $6k Trek Madone but an 90’s steel frame mountain bike or hybrid.

Right now I have a $145 dollar mountain bike i got from Walmart. I wide it pretty much everywhere already. I also plan on getting one of those electric bicycles.

RAT-7 wrote:

Stockpilling

That would definitely be hard to do in an apartment though. Even if you did live alone haha.

[IsolatedMonkParticipant 89]

@taxguy

Thanks, I’ll definitely avoid dating at work. I’m celibate already so I don’t even see the point in dating.

The main reason I brought this up is because aside from school, I don’t know how much attention men get from other women. I mainly assume it’s because most of them are PUAs.

[Jan SobieskiParticipant 28791]

Look poor. Don’t go anywhere trendy. No nightclubs. Go to neighborhood bars. The stickier the floor the better.

Look poor. Look poor. Look poor.

Don’t wear high end jewelry or shoes.

Look poor.

Love is just alimony waiting to happen. Visit mgtow.com.

[IsolatedMonkParticipant 89]

@jan.Sobieski

Thanks for the advice. I definitely will.

I’ve noticed many men who look rich or drive in expensive sports cars are getting more and more attention from women while the guy who works as a garbage collector almost never get any attention from women unless they’re a land whale.

[survivorParticipant 610]

Pretty much everything that can be said has been said or I’d contribute more. Bike if you can; don’t own a vehicle; maybe get a part-time job if you can handle it time wise. Even if can pay off an extra $25 or $50 bucks a month it’ll make a difference. That’ll mean you’re that much closer to paying off the last of the debt and can start saving for a house or just saving it to save it up; take your lunch and make sure it’s healthy. I’d add to also be sure to give yourself small but cheap and enjoyable rewards every now and then, a movie, a nice restaurant, a game subscription or Netflix subscription. Speaking for myself I go to see a new movie every so often if one comes out I want to see and maybe ice cream. Take care of yourself too, and remember that exercise can be free or very cheap. Push-ups, sit-ups, jogging, and jump rope, after the initial investment in shoes and rope are free. If you put a small bit of money towards some dumbbells and a curl bar and some plates in your living room you can probably do about 7-12 different weight routines to stay in shape and you don’t need a gym. To avoid women dress down and wear a fake wedding band from a pawn shop, it couldn’t be more than $50 dollars surely; occasionally talk about the weekend with your fictional wife. If they do appear interested mention the dreaded “d-word”, debt, and they’ll flee, cause then they’ll know you aren’t going to waste money on them and their entitled attitudes. Live your live how you want to. Live your life the way you want and you’ll be surprised what you can do without dumb broads. Pax.

"Shot through the heart, and you're to blame, You give love a bad name, I play my part and you play your game, You give love a bad name."--Bon Jovi

[HitmanParticipant]

IsolatedMonk wrote:

I also don’t get the snarky comment.

hey dude, russky was letting you know that you might be putting the cart in front of the horse…
it’s great to plan but you have to cross a few more bridges until you get to the one your talking about ..
he’s a good guy and that wasn’t “snarky’..
just comes from life experience..
if you want to make god laugh , tell him your plans ….
i truly hope you get what you want brother !
stay a MGTOW and you probably will !

[IsolatedMonkParticipant 89]

Hitman wrote:

hey dude, russky was letting you know that you might be putting the cart in front of the horse…

Ah, k. I can’t really tell if statements like that are sarcastic or not in text. My bad if I took it wrong. I’m really bad with that text or not.

And I was just putting the whole manager of large company out there as an example/hypothetical in case I ever did get into a big time position and wanted the advice of the MGTOW who are actually in those types of positions already. That way, I’d actually be prepared before I ever went into a position like that.

[HitmanParticipant]

it’s all good isolatedmonk.
keep reaching for what you want .
CONFIDENCE ! #1 ingredient for success !!!

[505vikingoParticipant 521]

A simple observation on my part.

At some point, you will get less attention as you age. Enjoy the attention now. I’ve asked some elderly fellas over the years if they had any regrets. They usually said something to the effect of “I wish I had enjoyed more ladies.” You will find the peace and solitude you seek as you work hard, invest wisely, and grow older. My humble opinion, enjoy your youth and never become entangled. MGTOW always Brothers!

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