A sibling's birthday dinner – narc mother will be there

[Anonymous 1]

Christopher wrote:

Im really struggling today – I think it is unreleased anger – my wellbeing was great before that family event – being around that narc again and her abuse just reminded me of a bad past – today I feel drained of my energy/wellbeing – didnt sleep last nite but had been sleeping fine before this. Hope this passes. Wish I had stayed true to my instinct and stayed the f~~~ away from that toxic person. I feel I let myself down by going to that event.

Well at least you came through for your sibling. You said you would be there and you were. You did what you said. I wouldn’t feel bad about that.

F~~~ NARCS. Next time don’t go and tell everybody why you aren’t going. You get invited just say no, last time Moms ruined it for me. No is the most powerful word in the English language. Use it more.

[CuckSniperParticipant 449]

I understand you hate your mother. I get that part. She is a female/c~~~. That’s reason enough.

I don’t understand why you hate her for being a “narc”. “Narcs” are awesome people who keep our streets safe and get rid of the filthy dirty disgusting drug addicts.

The only reason to hate her job is if you are a drug addict/dealer. Sounds like you are paranoid she is going to bust you for drugs.

I suggest laying off the drugs bro. Drugs = Poison. Drugs/alcohol are for Cucks who can’t handle life. Be a REAL man and live a clean and sober life.

[Anonymous 38]

Christopher wrote:

Okay so the event was a few days ago – I went – I know all your comments were WELL intentioned and I thank you all for them – I think you were ALL right in your comments as all your comments were useful in some way in dealing with the situation and I have learned something from all your perspectives – but imho in this instance all those that said do not go/ arrange to meet one on one/or if you must go be brief were all correct (more right so to speak)- so Awakened, Puffin, GMOW, Maraudrz, Faust, Monk, JVB, etc you called this one right – thank you. The other approaches mentioned (thank you to you guys also Branched Off, Duke, Taoist) also have/had definite validity and definite usefulness on the day imho but I feel in this “particular situation” the 100% winning strategy was simply not to go and arrange a one on one.

It is not a case of whether you should have or should not have gone. The fact is you went. You learned something from it. Is that not valuable?

With your renewed stronger knowledge, now the next time some event comes up you probably will not even have to ask “should i go?”

These kind of things come down to a choice in my opinion. Is the door entirely closed (fine) or am I leaving it open because I’m still curious about some aspect of other people or myself (also fine).

Me personally I keep going back until I know I’ll get nothing from it. In your shoes I’d keep going until I was certain I had the requisite power to be totally unaffected by such people. Had I not had this mindset, I’d still be very worried about these kind of c~~~s. But gladly I am well past them and they can no longer affect me in any way. It is like continually exposing yourself to danger and eventually learning to adapt to it and for it to lose its effect entirely. Not saying this to shame your choice, just explaining my own situation which is an alternative viewpoint.

Don’t bother torturing yourself with “I should not have gone”, that is a complete waste of time and energy. It looks you’ve decided not to bother next time, so for this reason consider this occasion to have been a worthy endeavour.

Well done mate!

[Anonymous 1]

CuckSniper wrote:

I don’t understand why you hate her for being a “narc”. “Narcs” are awesome people who keep our streets safe and get rid of the filthy dirty disgusting drug addicts.

Narc as in Narcissist, not the undercover cops (whom make drug busts).

[ChristopherParticipant 2478]

Anonymous wrote:

Well at least you came through for your sibling. You said you would be there and you were. You did what you said. I wouldn’t feel bad about that.

F~~~ NARCS. Next time don’t go and tell everybody why you aren’t going. You get invited just say no, last time Moms ruined it for me. No is the most powerful word in the English language. Use it more.

Cheers mate – I wasnt expecting any more replies tbh but Im glad there are. Im somehow badly energy depleted after it all. It is something to do with unreleased anger. Im just hoping this does not re-ignite the bad insomnia I suffered from in the past and that I can recover. Yeah f~~~ these toxic people.

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[MonkParticipant 17050]

Christopher wrote:

Im somehow badly energy depleted after it all.

Narcs feed on other peoples energy. It’s another reason to avoid them.

It is something to do with unreleased anger.

Try contempt instead. Works for me.

[ChristopherParticipant 2478]

CuckSniper wrote:

live a clean and sober life.

Good advice and yes I do live a very clean sober life. Drugs were never a part of my life – alcohol hardly at all the past 15 years. Narc as in narcisist.

Anonymous wrote:

Don’t bother torturing yourself with “I should not have gone”, that is a complete waste of time and energy. It looks you’ve decided not to bother next time, so for this reason consider this occasion to have been a worthy endeavour. Well done mate!

Yeah I know there is no point regretting the decision to go – its done now. A narcisist will try to draw a person into a destructive argument/conflict/drama and they thrive off that energy. I did totally destroy this narcisist in an argument some time ago when they were completely out of order and logic. But it never ends. Stepping out of that neverending ‘loop’ as spiderherder said is the wise move – at least it is for me. Im not the type of person to think of “on the spot” responses to these toxic individuals who go on the attack – I guess for me currently avoidance and ghosting them works best. Thanks for reply. Im glad of the replies.

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[Anonymous 1]

Christopher wrote:

Im somehow badly energy depleted after it all. It is something to do with unreleased anger.

Interacting with Pathological people drains me too. That’s why its best to avoid them at all costs.

After a day of dealing with such people its nice to go home. That’s my sanctuary. Get lost in doing something you enjoy and forget all about the outside world for a few hours. Have a good day and you will sleep better too. Worrying too much causes Insomnia. Sometimes you just got to turn it all off for a few.

[ChristopherParticipant 2478]

Monk wrote:

Try contempt instead. Works for me.

Cheers Monk. I must try that more… Yes it works ! To heck with such people they are not worthy of my time or attention.

Anonymous wrote:

Interacting with Pathological people drains me too. That’s why its best to avoid them at all costs.
After a day of dealing with such people its nice to go home. That’s my sanctuary. Get lost in doing something you enjoy and forget all about the outside world for a few hours. Have a good day and you will sleep better too. Worrying too much causes Insomnia. Sometimes you just got to turn it all off for a few.

Cheers Wizards pupil. I’ll try to do that..

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