A New MGTOW Book

[Tim PattenParticipant 660]

I’d like to share a small chapter excerpt in my latest book. MGTOW Building Wealth and Power.
The book is available world wide at all amazon outlets. (I am sorry for the blatant ad!)

http://www.amazon.com/MGTOW-Building-Wealth-Power-Single-ebook/dp/B01ANQD25U/ref=sr_1_1?s=books&ie=UTF8&qid=1453390883&sr=1-1&keywords=mgtow+building+wealth+and+power

Chapter 8 (for mgtow.com)
That Perfect Someone

As single men, many of us are socially mobile and able to meet all kinds of people as we go through life. Some of us may enjoy the freedom to meet not just one person but many. Some lift us up, while others selfishly devour our time, energy and resources. For many of us – our ability to love and our desire to be loved in return is something that defines us as human beings.

There are many kinds of love, however. While the love we receive from our parents may well be the greatest we’ll ever experience, what we share with those we’ve selected, and who have chosen us, is the reason for our existence. What is the basis for this assumption–and assertion–that our relationships must be monogamous? And must it be forever? To believe that for every man there is only one woman whom he must remain with for the rest of his life seems more like a myopic fairy tale, more an ideal than a pathway we should all follow. Love comes in many degrees, levels and forms; is it really our lot that some are “better” than others? Most people experience serial relationships over a lifetime.

The Special Connection

Hanging out with friends, hooking up with someone special and moving on to a dating relationship is one of the most natural and exciting progressions we can experience in our lives. Things don’t necessarily have to unfold in this way, of course. The magical chemistry of attraction can strike at any time. You, me or anyone–suddenly, out of the blue, there’s a moment when her eyes and our eyes meet…and linger. Zing! Go the heartstrings as the emotional ripple slashes through us, our guts feeling like they are flipping upside down. Our breath catches in our throats and sparks of electricity fly. Hyperawareness draws us closer, two hearts beating as one.

In a matter of moments, the wondrous dance, the mating ritual, has begun. Suddenly, she’s saying, “It’s him, my one and only! At last, my prince has come!” But we see it differently. We’re thinking, “Man, is she hot! It’s my lucky night!” And just like that, we succumb to thinking that another carefree and unbounded relationship has just been jump-started. All that matters is that love is in the air and sex is on the menu; emotions bloom and life seems so darned good. Soon, without us even realizing, we’ve become an item–“a pair of lovebirds,” our friends and family say. Euphoria runs deep, and every time we get together, bellies flutter and hearts race, spirits seem to merge, and talk of love is in the air. Then things get serious.

Feelings Run Deep

At this point, it’s not just love that we feel for each other. It’s respect too. Our emotional and physical intimacy makes us more understanding and empathetic. Neither of us wants to hurt the other’s feelings, but each of us wants to enjoy all our partner has to offer. She is our sexual partner, while we are her sexual outlet. We become increasingly addicted to each other’s taste, smell and touch. The spiritual, psychological and emotional barriers that might once have distinguished and defined us seem to fall by the wayside.

But this loosening of our protective shield soon leads to insecurity. By opening ourselves up to each other, we have made ourselves vulnerable. We begin to worry about something going wrong. We fear the despair and agony of a possible breakup and heartache. We worry about what our friends and others might say behind our backs if things suddenly fall apart. In a matter of time, we begin to feel like there needs to be ground rules and boundaries to keep the relationship alive. We want to put up a united front to those around us, so we go along with demands that become more troubling over time. Directives surface about how we should behave; we agree to limits and restrictions on our actions and our friends.

Day in and day out, we continue to acquiesce, believing that we are making mutual decisions about what is and isn’t acceptable within the framework of our relationship. In the name of love, we begin to lose sight of our individuality and what we want out of life. We see ourselves as a couple, constrained by monogamy. We do her bidding because we want sex; she accommodates us because of where she sees the relationship heading. We have agreed on a code to live by, designed to safeguard our relationship from outside influences and bolster it from within. No longer is it about love; now, it’s a case of, ’do right by me and I’ll do right by you.’ We think we’ve created a special kind of relationship paradise. In reality, we’ve booked a ticket on board the Titanic, with frighteningly large icebergs ahead.

What a Man Needs

For single men, when it comes to relationships, men don’t have a lot of rules. Some guys find getting the occasional escort to be cheaper than dating, with a guaranteed outcome. We like life to be simple and uncomplicated, without drama. It is the results that matter, not the procedures, steps or phases necessary to get there. We also don’t take much notice of the little things. We are more interested in the notion of a World Series home run or the possibility of a cure for Ebola than discussing, for example, whether the rooms at home need to be painted or rearranged. We dream of a day when we understand the mystery of dark energy rather than what is the best name to choose for our soon-to-be-born child or the color of the drapes in the nursery. We are natural adventurers, interested in exploring the universe for answers to great questions instead of spending lots of time and energy, like many women do, proving how terrible we men are.

That doesn’t mean we don’t have certain principles and requirements, of course. While they naturally vary between us, it’s a good bet that many of us share at least some expectations about what we want and how we like to be treated by women. Among other things, we need her to:

1.Give us sex–however, whenever and wherever we want. If we aren’t satisfied, we’ll probably keep trying, but if she persists in not doing her part, we’ll lose interest pretty darn fast.
2.She should maintain her looks. If not, many of us will feel the urge to find someone who does.
3.She should be sweet, kind, caring, honest, spontaneous and loyal. If she’s good in bed, that might overcome some failings, but why can’t we have it all?
4.She should enjoy physical intimacy with us. We want her to be interested and enthusiastic, and try new things. If not, sooner or later our primeval instincts will encourage us to go elsewhere.
5.She should be interested in us. We need women who are fascinated by and attracted to our bodies, minds, souls, passions and vocations.
6.She might encourage us in any way she can and take every opportunity to boost our ego. If not, she had better be extremely good in bed.
7.Be our companion and enjoy spending time with us, sharing experiences and adventures. But that should never be a substitute for other things, especially the intimate side of our relationship.

What a Woman Needs

Unlike men, women have lots of rules, and we are constantly pressured to follow them. Everywhere we turn, we’re expected to conform to a preset template and measure up to archaic standards created by others. Women hold all the power. In the office or on the factory floor, in the park or at a mall, at home or in church; we are ensnared in a web of sticky expectations that stifle our spirit and constrict our natural instincts. Indeed, it often seems like women have written their own wiki on the subject. Googling “how a man should treat a woman” returns a myriad of astounding results. It seems that the weaker sex–pun intended–has a lot to say about what we should do and how and when we should do it.

Many of her requirements are detailed below. It’s long list, but it’s by no means exhaustive. If you’re one of the rapidly dwindling numbers of men who still believes we have to subscribe to such expectations just to have a shot at what’s inside her panties, then there’s only one thing to say: read it and weep!

1.We must be polite, kind and treat her with respect at all times–even if she doesn’t deserve it.
2.We have to trust her implicitly. Even if she says or does something that isn’t quite Kosher, God forbid if we question her integrity.
3.We can never lie to her. Chances are, she’ll find out about it anyway and make our life hell.
4.Don’t talk about exes and old girlfriends. She already hates these women, and she might use any such excuse to go out and kill them.
5.Don’t look her in the eye too aggressively. Whatever you do, make sure you are the first to blink.
6.Learn to think like her. It’s called reading her mind–without her knowing (yeah, right).
7.We must keep in touch with her and only her. Call, text and email her constantly; it helps her keep tabs on you. She owns you and you must never experience that special connection with any other human. She wants all your life’s attention.
8.We’d better pay for everything, whether it’s restaurants, movies, special events, or anything else. Don’t even think about going Dutch if you know what’s good for you.
9.Remember to constantly make her feel special. Buy her surprise trinkets. Leave little love notes. Tell her how wonderful she is. (You do want that bj, don’t you?)
10.Remain blind when it comes to other women. You might want to think twice–or maybe a lot more–before telling her that one of her friends is really pretty. (Go on: I double-dare ya!)
11.Compliment her looks, even if it’s a lie. If you find it a struggle, cross your fingers behind your back (and think bj).
12.We must listen and pay attention when she’s speaking to you. Take notes. There will be questions afterwards.
13.Never interrupt her when she’s speaking. This is not about you, silly. It’s about…um…eh…what?
14.We must provide her with emotional support. Make sure you keep a pack of tissues in your pocket and that your shoulder remains dandruff-free. Trust me, she will have plenty of emotional breakdowns and we had better be there!
15.We need to learn to smell the roses. Never complain about her choice of deodorants, perfumes and other fragrances. They cost a fortune and she expects you to love them.
16.Make sure she’s “in the mood.” She’s female and her moods swing with the moon. Keep smiling (and forget the bj).
17.Talk, talk and talk (except when you’re supposed to be listening) to her. Make conversation. All the time. Even when she’s quiet. She needs your attention. Always.
18.Love cats. Yes, seriously. Even if you hate the feline fur-ball beasts. Cats are cool, especially hers, her friends’ and family’s.
19.Show her off. Don’t forget to introduce her to all your friends and colleagues with a great flourish and lots of fanfare. Bows, gestures and kowtowing is always the best.
20.Protect her (even if at the expense of your own safety). Make like you’re Kevin Costner in The Bodyguard (bj guaranteed).
21.Tell her she’s beautiful (even when she’s not). Flattery will get you everywhere. But remember, never lie. Now what?
22.Understand that she’s the sum of her parts. Ignore the warts and never criticize any aspect of her anatomy.
23.Stay in tune with her feelings. If she’s happy, so are you. If she’s sad, you’re sad, too. Get it?
24.Remember: her friends are your friends (even if they look like the seven dwarves). Be happy, not grumpy.
25.There is only one answer to the question, “Does my ass look big in this?” Don’t say the wrong thing. Ever! This one time you’re allowed to lie.
26.Keep things clean and proper. No rude jokes, farting or picking your nose. You’re not in the locker room any more.
27.Be an attentive lover, a superman in the bedroom–a man of steel. From the waist down, at least.
28.Treat her like royalty. Princesses are little girls; your woman is a queen. “On your knees, peasant!”
29.Forget your male friends and acquaintances. Say goodbye to bowling, poker nights and hanging out with the guys. Your days of fun are well and truly over.
30.Maintain a diary. Never forget her birthday, the day you met, or the first time you ever shared a Twinkie. If you do, apologize profusely and remember to write it down (if you want to avoid hell, that is).
31.Touch her, hold her hands and give her a hug. Always try to maintain some kind of physical contact (except when she doesn’t want it, which you’ll usually only find out after the fact).
32.Be romantic. Carve her name in trees. Bring her flowers for no reason. Plaster “selfies” of her on Facebook.
33.Call her sweetheart, hunny bunny, sweetie pie, cuddle muddle or words to that effect. If you can’t think of one, there’s always the Internet.
34.Invest in your relationship with her. That doesn’t just mean money; it also means time, energy, emotions and showing her plenty of appreciation for being in your life. Then spend more money to prove that you mean it.
35.Never take her for granted. See that ground she walks on? You worship it, right? (Don’t forget to tell her it tastes good, too).
36.Don’t treat her like one of the guys, because she’ll treat you like a bitch.
37.Don’t raise your hand to her, even when she throws the first punch. She’s female, and you must never forget it.
38.Never brush her aside. Even if she’s blocking your way and shouting in your face, just stand there smiling, and wait.
39.Be chivalrous. If you don’t know what that means, Google it, for crying out loud.
40.Don’t fool around. Keep it in your pants, buddy, or kiss it goodbye. She will become violent, suspicious and vindictive and make your life a living hell.
41.Never order her around. Every woman wants a dominant man–except yours.
42.Never treat her like a waitress. Store your beer on the top shelf and when you want one, get it yourself.
43.Hold the doors for her. Every door. Everywhere.
44.Trust her intuition. Don’t question her when she has a certain “feeling,” just be prepared for the worst.
45.Avoid sarcasm, unless it’s about somebody or something she doesn’t like. You’ll lose, man. Women are born with sarcasm running through their veins.
46.Never challenge her authority. You’re only the alpha male for as long as she’s in charge.
47.Don’t embarrass her in front of others, especially her friends. If you do, you’ll only ever do it once.
48.Be polite and generous. Always let her have the last slice of cake, even if she could, shall we say, do without the calories.
49.Always take no for an answer. Migraines? Washing her hair? Doing her nails? “No” means no!
50.Whisper her name when you finish. For your own sake, please make sure it’s hers, OK?

Lessons Learned

While many of these “rules” seem just petty or silly, they are, in fact, unproductive and damaging to those who believe in and enforce them. They invariably create hurdles and roadblocks that lead to disappointment and failure. As the famed martial arts expert Bruce Lee once said, “I’m not in this world to live up to your expectations.” Or, as Canadian actor Ryan Reynolds once noted, “When you have expectations of others, you are setting yourself up for disappointment.” The fact is, many women have far too many expectations when it comes to men and relationships. Women wield all the power with these rules, but relationships backfire on almost all women. When women are let down they drop the man and are left paranoid and bitter. No wonder women complain they can’t find a “good” man. Quite simply, no one can ever hope to measure up. The result is that most women keep getting hurt, and they remain perpetual victims; all due to strange and unobtainable expectations of what others should be doing.

In reality, the expectations women have are their problem, not ours. There is no such thing as the perfect someone, except in women’s romance novels and chick flicks, and we should not even try to acknowledge such thinking. Besides, it is unhealthy for us to suppress our natural instincts and engage in such unnatural behavior. What’s more, nowhere is it written that having one significant other is a prerequisite to lifelong happiness. Everyone is amazing in their own way, and the more connections we make, the better; they are an essential component of our genetic make-up.

This author once said, “We must pen our own rules and take joy from wherever we find it,” and this still holds true. The first step towards freedom is to develop an awareness of the pressures of a gynocentric world which derail our aspirations and help to transform us into self-destructive vagina worshipers. We must also be conscious of how our sexual instincts work against us, allowing money to flow from our pockets to theirs. We must be strong and independent, happy and healthy, and masters of our own destiny.

It’s time to lay down the critical ground rules for ensuring our financial survival. The next chapters will examine our personal behaviors around the money we have today. Take notes.

[JackinovParticipant 5229]

Ummm. Ok? You JUST published this less than a week ago (of course that doesn’t mean much in view of its quality). You offering free review copies or want us to critique your book or something? Because you’re not telling us anything we don’t know.

Did you join just to try to sell us something?

are you a chia pet in man drag

[Anonymous 11]

Thanks Tim!

I can tell you’ve put a lot of time on this and put up with us during your visits here.

I will say your extensive list of 50 things a woman needs are exactly why I keep my distance.

I had a conversation with a female friend who told me I was not romantic. I’m not, and she’s not the first woman to tell me that. The reason:

Between the ages of 17 to 23 various ill mannered young women made sure any romantic gestures were forever gone.

[Tim PattenParticipant 660]

The main way to get exposure for the book would be for people to review it and gift it to friends or family members and such. I tried to write for young men, in hopes of growing members from a college age and up…

I’d be happy to send a PDF if you can help review it at amazon and other sites? Are you willing to help? I can use it….

[JackinovParticipant 5229]

Of course I’d be willing to help. This book, if it’s legit, will be an excellent gift. I was (am) just a little wary at first.

are you a chia pet in man drag

[Tim PattenParticipant 660]

Of course I’d be willing to help. This book, if it’s legit, will be an excellent gift. I was (am) just a little wary at first.

Thank you so much for the help! You cam email me at jdcinsf@aol.com my home email.

I appreciate the help!

T

[Biggvs_DickvsParticipant 3725]

I’d be willing to buy it at full purchase price if you’ll send me the pdf instead. I don’t do kindle.

Looks like a good read. Any chance of getting it hardcopy? I have a relative in the army that I’d like to gift a copy to, but in his job function e-readers aren’t practical or even viable (it’ll get broken the first day).

"Data, I would be delighted to offer any advice I can on understanding women. When I have some, I'll let you know." --Captain Picard,

[Tim PattenParticipant 660]

The book has just come out online. I will get paper back copies at my home in about 2 weeks.

Do you use Amazon . com? If so it is easy to order a paperback for your brother.?

And I can send you a PDF. Write me (jdcinsf@aol.com)

Cheers

[Biggvs_DickvsParticipant 3725]

Got the paperback. My bro in the Army can really benefit from all the MGTOW wisdom he can get. He’s just at the age where he’s ripe for some golddigging harpie to get her hooks into him.

"Data, I would be delighted to offer any advice I can on understanding women. When I have some, I'll let you know." --Captain Picard,

[Tim PattenParticipant 660]

PERFECT! I’m so happy. You made my day.

I wanted the book to be fairly brief, and at 150 pages it makes an inexpensive gift. I think getting the word out on MGTOW ideas is important for men.

Feminism grew from the books a bunch of fat lesbian wrote back in the 60s, So I figure books are a great method to educate and enlighten.

Thank you so much. Leave a review if possible. 80% of book readers are women and they place BAD reviews on my other book! lol.

[Biggvs_DickvsParticipant 3725]

Glad to do it – it’s a great read so far (Just on the opening chapter). I sent you email too – please let me know if it ended up in your spam folder.

Best,
Rich

"Data, I would be delighted to offer any advice I can on understanding women. When I have some, I'll let you know." --Captain Picard,

[007 (Reborn)Participant 1672]

Chapter 8 of your book appears to be well written. I just bought the kindle version for the hell of it. I’ll be sure to leave an honest review once I finish it.

Pursuing Happiness and Freedom.

[Enjoy The DeclineParticipant 1719]

Alright, well I basically read this whole book in two sittings and here is what I got to say on it. I believe that this book touches on a lot of the things needed for you to become a really effective MGTOW person. Also, I would even go as far as to categorize it as a self help book for men which is good. For people who don’t like big books, I would say that it can be possible to read this book in one sitting if you really try, but do not be fooled by it’s small size since there is not much fluff in it. Overall, I wish this book was around when I was 18 years old along with the other books I read later on in life since this book provides a great intro to what MGTOW is all about. Thanks for the read.

"Question everything" - Albert Einstein

[SpacemonkeyParticipant 1481]

Tim Patten wrote:

There are many kinds of love, however. While the love we receive from our parents may well be the greatest we’ll ever experience, what we share with those we’ve selected, and who have chosen us, is the reason for our existence.

Really? My existence is not based on either receiving nor giving love and I would further say that is one if not the only defining MGTOW characteristic. We are not slaves to love, we are free men.

“Long is the way and hard, that out of Hell leads up to light.”

[Tim PattenParticipant 660]

Enjoy the decline: Thank you for reading! I wanted to get a document out there that young men could read and get a little boost, or head start towards success.

Cheers

[Tim PattenParticipant 660]

007: Thank you for jumping in and giving it a read!

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