A memorial for a good friend

[DaveVParticipant 450]

I am sorry I have not been online much, it’s been more than a year, but a sad moment for me. I lost a good friend, he passed away in hospital last month from a complication from a reaction to medication he had for an bacterial infection in hospital.

He was good friend of over 20 years, heart of gold, always helping people, never a bad word about anybody. Sadly he got married about 12 years ago, and had 4 kids. His wife, gave up her job and refused to help around the house. She constantly threatened him with divorce. He worked 2 jobs, but inbetween looked after his kids. His wife refused to let his friends or male relatives into their house. She demanded a nice house, nice car, and holidays. He tried to keep her happy.

According to his brother, his health deteriorated, he lost wait, and always seemed in a daze, trying to manage work, bill, his kids and try to keep his wife happy. Sadly it appears, the stress was too much. He was always run down, and apparently it was obvious to neighbours, something was not right and something was going to give.

I went MGTOW a while ago after a divorce, and having seen what the courts do, I would never recommend anyone marrying in the UK unless you have no assets or no income and she is rich (which thanks to women’s hypergamy, will never happen). Unfortunately I have been working away, and only discovered what was happening until it was too late.

He was a good guy, sadly, he probably won’t be the last. Someone I regarded as a true friend and someone who did not deserve to be screwed like he did.

(and worst still, his wife had the gall to say after his death, not what a great husband or father he was (his kids adored him), but …who will pay the bills, who will look after the kids, who will do the household jobs…..and then indirectly asked me to pay for the mortgage, when I was told never to come into their house for the last 10 years….and this is a modern educated woman with a degree)………

RIP Terence, may you find the solace in death that you did not have in life after marriage. You deserved better.

D. G. I. Don't. Get. Involved. (Be happy, and stress not)

[ChristopherParticipant 2478]

Sorry for your loss. That will be hard for the children.
Your good mate sounds like he was a good man that suffered in a type of scenario that is so often described on MGTOW websites.
Peace and God Bless.

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[DaveVParticipant 450]

Christopher wrote:

Sorry for your loss. That will be hard for the children.Your good mate sounds like he was a good man that suffered in a type of scenario that is so often described on MGTOW websites.Peace and God Bless.

Thanks Christopher, he was. The perfect example of a ‘nice guy’, that women in their younger day would ignore. But as a friend, the sort of guy who would drop you off at the airport/train station at 3 am just because he liked to help people in need. He helped a lot of people in need in his life, more than I could hope to.

His kids really adored him, more than their mother. They took it hard, and haven’t recovered yet, and I don’t think they have gotten over the shock yet. As for his wife…well she’s out looking for husband no 2.

D. G. I. Don't. Get. Involved. (Be happy, and stress not)

[SwimcatParticipant 3589]

No disrespect to your friend, but the thing about women like that is the lack of character is 99 times out of 100 reveled before marriage. Too many men just refuse to acknowledge it, or think they can’t do any better and go ahead with the marriage. Then he dig himself in so deep it’s impossible to escape by making four kids. If anything good comes out of MGTOW it will be to get men to think with common sense instead of emotion of the long term consequences, and a take a deep hard look at a women’s actions before unbreakable commitments are made.

[743 roadmasterParticipant]

I know a guy like that, hope he wakes up to the situation he made for himself.

To bad your friend did not see it before getting broken down.

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[CarnageParticipant 22113]

Yeahhh, congratulations to that f~~~er, he made out of this s~~~ hole.

May he rest for once.

To those following me, be careful, I just farted. Men those beans are killers.

[Knarley BobParticipant 2219]

Being a friend to his children would go along way. I’m sure he’d appreciate that. His “wife” is another story, I’d let that go…

OATHKEEPERS, not on our watch. MOLON LABE

[JVBParticipant]

Sorry for your pain DaveV.

Peace is > piece.

[AwakenedParticipant 35201]

Terrence’s story serves as another Red Pill for all the lurkers …….. Sadly, there are MANY MEN that work themselves into an early grave “attempting” to make their lil cupcake “happy” which is an IMPOSSIBLE task for Any Man.

In a World of Justin Beibers Be a Johnny Cash

[DaveVParticipant 450]

Knarley Bob wrote:

Being a friend to his children would go along way. I’m sure he’d appreciate that. His “wife” is another story, I’d let that go…

I am not allowed to speak to his kids, his wife won’t let me. I have not set foot into his house since they got married. She made sure he distanced himself from his long standing friends and family. If I tried, I am worried she would call the police or make some false allegation against me, hence why I passed on my condolences to his brother. I just get text messages asking for money (indirect) , questions about where I am working and is it worthwhile (i.e. how much ). She refused to allow her husbands relatives including mother into the house.

I would help if I could, but I wont put myself in harms way. I know how screwed up the UKs family law system is.

D. G. I. Don't. Get. Involved. (Be happy, and stress not)

[DaveVParticipant 450]

JVB wrote:

Sorry for your pain DaveV.

Thanks JVB.

Everyone in the street says how awful it is for his wife. No one says anything about him…society is f*cked up. Guy works himself to death for his family….no one cares. His wife needs someone to pay bills…lots of sympathy????

D. G. I. Don't. Get. Involved. (Be happy, and stress not)

[Anonymous 12]

They ground him into dust.
Don’t. Go. Near. Them.
Do not help them – danger.
Do not help them – feeding their bad habits.
Do not go near the Kids or family – stated reasons.

Mourn your friend, and thank him for the lessons he taught you in his life and in his death.

Last step – keep walking.

[bladeParticipant]

Sorry for your loss bro . Time passes in the blink of an eye .

THE PLANTATION HAS NOW TURNED INTO THE KILLING FIELDS . WOMAN ARE NOW ROLLING CAMBODIAN STYLE .

[DaveVParticipant 450]

Swimcat wrote:

No disrespect to your friend, but the thing about women like that is the lack of character is 99 times out of 100 reveled before marriage. Too many men just refuse to acknowledge it, or think they can’t do any better and go ahead with the marriage. Then he dig himself in so deep it’s impossible to escape by making four kids. If anything good comes out of MGTOW it will be to get men to think with common sense instead of emotion of the long term consequences, and a take a deep hard look at a women’s actions before unbreakable commitments are made.

You are unfortunately right. I spoke to his brother after his funeral. He told me his father had warned him not to marry that girl. Unfortunately he did not listen. He did not listen to me either, and did not learn from the experience from others. He always defended her. But that was the sort of guy he was, he saw the best in everyone. But he paid a heavy price. His kids, sadly, are going to pay a heavier price, may they recover from this, as best as it possible in this situation.

In all honesty, he would have been alive today, wealthier and happier if he did not get married. Instead, he leaves behind a large mortgage, unpaid bills, credit card bills, several kids which the tax payer will have to support, and the emotional turmoil his kids will have to suffer for the rest of their lives.

A good man, nevertheless, whose only mistake in life was to get married (to the wrong girl…assuming if there is ever a ‘right’ girl to marry in the UK)

D. G. I. Don't. Get. Involved. (Be happy, and stress not)

[Anonymous 12]

I´m sorry WHAT?

let me… let me be a bit rude to you.

A good man on one hand
he leaves behind a large mortgage, unpaid bills, credit card bills, several kids which the tax payer will have to support, and the emotional turmoil his kids will have to suffer for the rest of their lives. on the other.

he made one mistake – he put a ring on it.
he made one mistake – he pushed the big red button that controls the nukes.

he who pushes the red button is no good man.
he who is a woman´s bitch is no good man.

because a man is not a woman´s bitch.

Good man?
Good?
You have a funny way of spelling “Weak”

how about that…

[DaveVParticipant 450]

Anonymous wrote:

I´m sorry WHAT?
let me… let me be a bit rude to you.
A good man on one handhe leaves behind a large mortgage, unpaid bills, credit card bills, several kids which the tax payer will have to support, and the emotional turmoil his kids will have to suffer for the rest of their lives. on the other.
he made one mistake – he put a ring on it.he made one mistake – he pushed the big red button that controls the nukes.
he who pushes the red button is no good man.he who is a woman´s bitch is no good man.
because a man is not a woman´s bitch.
Good man?Good?You have a funny way of spelling “Weak”
how about that…

We were all blue pill at some point, brother. I agree that during marriage, and what he did after marriage, was not wise.
You are spot on with your analysis there, no arguments from me on that. But I remember the guy and my friend before he got married. It’s that memory that I value, of someone who would help his fellow brothers without hesitation. He helped me out when I was still working and studying at the same time, when I couldn’t afford a car, and he would lend me his, and put my name on his insurance. Someone who lent me money when I was starting out (granted it wasn’t a lot, but helped me get through bills whilst studying).

Mistakes we all make. I was also married, but was lucky in how I got out. That was the red pill for me. That woke me up. I found MGTOW later. Many brothers have not been as fortunate. And there is still a large majority of guys still getting married etc

But you are not being rude, and neither am I offended. What you summarize, should serve a lesson to all guys, and it is 100% correct BUT if nothing else comes out of his loss, he would be happy that his unfortunate end to life after marriage would serve to help others avoid the pitfalls he made.

But on reflection I suppose I lost a good friend 12 years ago when he got married. Now at least he won’t suffer. But he was still someone I would regard as a brother. Perhaps I am mourning the loss of a person 12 years ago…but I hope he is resting in peace. In spite of his mistakes, he did not deserve to be treated like that, either by his wife or society. He did not do harm to anyone, was hardworking, honest, and a good character.

D. G. I. Don't. Get. Involved. (Be happy, and stress not)

[Anonymous 12]

I red your message and like you said “what he did after marriage was not wise” that got me rolling…
But on reflection I suppose I lost a good friend 12 years ago when he got married.

I wanted to say “as your friend married, the person he was up until that point … died, vanished, got subdued.”

The Moment he decided to put a ring on it, for whatever reasons… he was gone.
You literally could have said good bye on that very day?
It was not his marriage.
It was the day the demon took over.

I pity the men walking down the aisle or signing the contract in a gov’t office – the suit they wear that day might be the same worn on their death bed.
It sounds ridiculous, but it genuinely makes me sad.
Like watching a Dog chase a Cat and fall off a cliff.

When you say:
He did not do harm to anyone, was hardworking, honest, and a good character.
do not forget the messed up kids, the bills, the wife who will now feel entitled to the next wallet.
Had he had no marriage, none of this would have happened.

No damage?
Not intentionally, granted.
But marriage without damage… is that really a possibility.
There is always drama. Emotions, financial burdens. Damage.
But damage there is now.

Don’t kneel in front of pussy with a boxed ring.
That is the moment a man starts doing damage to himself and a large circle of entities (kids, family, friends, businesses, banks) – and he is blind to it.

[DaveVParticipant 450]

Anonymous wrote:

I wanted to say “as your friend married, the person he was up until that point … died, vanished, got subdued.”

Indeed. I suppose on reflection, he embarked on a path which led to his destruction. I supposed I never noticed it as I was red pill shortly after. I started working hard, taking tough assignments abroad, which if I had a wife in tow, I could never do. Some really rough places, hard work, long hours. But I saved, I paid off my modest mortgage, I own a small modest car, reliable but does the job. I have traveled, I have made many new friends. Interestingly, most guys I meet on my travels abroad are divorced. Unfairly treated by the courts, asset stripped. They vowed to work for themselves, enjoy themselves and live how they want to.

My late friend, lost his savings, bought a large house with large mortgage which he could not afford. Ended up working 2 jobs. Had credit cards maxed out. 4 kids who are only going to know poverty and heartache. I never saw the signs I suppose. I was too busy sorting my own life out following the family courts and the princess my wife turned into after marriage. It was a long road, but all I can say is, there is light at the end of the tunnel…if you survive marriage.

Anonymous wrote:

Don’t kneel in front of pussy with a boxed ring.

Sound advice. Your point reminded me of a joke I was told. Remember the three rings of relations~~~s with women. First is the engagement ring. Second, is the wedding ring. Third, is the suffer-ring …and then death.

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[Ronin11Participant 208]

My daughter has a friend. This friend is a girl, and she and her sister, were given money after her father blew himself away. He found out his wife was divorcing him, and seeing another woman. So he had the double whammy, the guy who was getting dumped, and the guy who turned his wife gay. Any wonder he blew his brains out.
He gave all his money to his two daughters with the express intention of cutting out his ex wife. Well over the years the wife convince her daughters to give her and new step mom money. She convinced each daughter to pay off her mortgage, to buy them clothes and food, etc. In fact by the time she was done all the money meant to be for both these girls was all given to their mom. No one holds these women accountable. How can they commit such crimes and live with themselves?

There are no good women only degrees of bad.

[Anonymous 12]

No, that is no reason to blow ones’ mind out.

That is a reason to divorce her before she can strike, provided he has proof of his wife licking Pussy.
she broke the marriage, now stomp her into the ground.
But then he gave his money to two Women.
and two women(mother and stepmother) have then extracted money from two Women (Daughters)

Does not matter where the money is… a wife always finds a way to put her hands on it.
Marriage – DON’T!

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