A Friend had a heart attack last night

[TaxGuyParticipant]

One of my college buddies had a heart attack last night. Early 50’s. Married, 3 kids, wife doesn’t work.

I remember my ex telling me that she had worked and stayed at home with kids, and staying at home was WAY harder. Since I hadn’t done both, I had no say, just shut up and listen. Finally one day I remember telling her “Look, I’m only going to say this once. When you worked, you supported yourself. YOU don’t know the stress of everyone you care about being dependent on you and if you f~~~ up it’s not just yourself that suffers. Your kids suffer too. That’s a stress you’ll never understand!”

I can’t help thinking that it is that stress that has my friend in the hospital now. It sounds like he is going to be ok, but who knows what the future holds after heart attack number one.

So there’s your long term benefit of being a good guy, having the stay at home mom and raising your kids. You get to have a heart attack from the stress.

If that’s the Norman Rockwell life, you can’t count me out. NEVER going back to the plantation. It’s a f~~~ing death sentence.

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[Solo MAN’S WisdomParticipant]

TaxGuy wrote:

NEVER going back to the plantation. It’s a f~~~ing death sentence.

THANK YOU.

Glad to hear your buddy is likely to pull through this.

When women lead, destruction is the destination. -- Me.

[TaxGuyParticipant]

Solo MAN’S Wisdom wrote:

TaxGuy wrote:

NEVER going back to the plantation. It’s a f~~~ing death sentence.

THANK YOU.

Glad to hear your buddy is likely to pull through this.

Thanks, me too. He’s a good dude. It’s kind of funny, he was a Chad in high school and college. That guy could get ANY woman he wanted. Watching him in a bar was amazing. You just hoped whoever he picked had a cute friend or you weren’t getting any action being around him. Then he turned into a total family guy once he met the wife.

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[Joey AlfioParticipant]

That’s good he’s in stable condition and recovering. Work alone and all the BS that comes with it can be stressful and it’s worse knowing there’s more of it at home.

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[PistolPeteParticipant 27143]

My prayers are with your friend.

[Anonymous 25]

Yeah it has been proven that having a demanding wife causes heart attacks and strokes:

http://www.dailymail.co.uk/health/article-2623873/You-really-nagged-death-Excessive-demands-partners-double-risk-dying-middle-age.html

Save your life, live a happy life, go your own way. Not worth living with or marrying a woman.

[Anonymous 6]

Hope your friend gets well rested and this will wake his f~~~ing family up that they need to go easier on him, or else they will keep piling more s~~~ on the scale till he breaks.

[KeymasterKeymaster]

Was very sorry to see this topic.

TaxGuy wrote:

stress

That’s the key word and I’m glad you used it a few times.

I often think about this and find life to have it’s own abundant stresses and challenges, but the added stress of a wife and kids is not talked about enough. A lot of men absorb this and deal with it too quietly. It’s no surprise that it takes a huge toll eventually.

My own mind races with little worries and concerns even as I am on my way to work or sitting at a red light, but add a couple of kids, and you can multiply it.

I hope your buddy pulls through.

If you keep doing what you've always done... you're gonna keep getting what you always got.

[TaxGuyParticipant]

Keymaster wrote:

Was very sorry to see this topic.

TaxGuy wrote:

stress

That’s the key word and I’m glad you used it a few times.

I often think about this and find life to have it’s own abundant stresses and challenges, but the added stress of a wife and kids is not talked about enough. A lot of men absorb this and deal with it too quietly. It’s no surprise that it takes a huge toll eventually.

My own mind races with little worries and concerns even as I am on my way to work or sitting at a red light, but add a couple of kids, and you can multiply it.

I hope your buddy pulls through.

Thanks KM. That’s really why I posted it here. One of our friends is going to visit and I’ll get a further update this afternoon. Don’t want to overwhelm the guy.

But it’s a topic between my friends when we get together. There is a real stress of being the sole provider for a family that eats at you over the years. It’s a slow drip, but that’s how the Grand Canyon was made. And the wife can’t understand it, even IF they are sympathetic. And most of them aren’t. That’s probably what p~~~es me off the most when I hear the victim bulls~~~ from women. We LITERALLY KILL ourselves for them, and not only do they not appreciate it, they ACCELERATE it!!

Even being divorced, I set my alimony up so that the ex and kids will have a nicer place to live until they go off to college. After that she can go live in her car for all I care, but since she has them most of the time I want them to be comfortable. More money for a shorter time period. She could have got more years, but it would have had to be less per month.

And women wonder where all the good men are. Hint, they are recovering from a heart attack in ICU……..

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[Anonymous 54]

Glad hes still with us.
The 50’s are the heart attack years for married Men.
And sadly, I doubt he’ll get treated any better.
It would require accountabilty for the wife to see the stress she caused him as a contributing factor.

Never get married.

It will give you a heart attack in your 50’s.

Heed Tax Guys buddys warning.

[TaxGuyParticipant]

Update: My buddy is doing pretty good. He’s going to be in the hospital for a little while, which is good. If he has any complications I want him right there in the hospital hooked up to monitors.

Hopefully some of that sugar and spice comes to the forefront for his wife and she takes care of him. She was always better than most wives I’ve known so there is some hope. He’s one of those guys that’s always in a good mood no matter what’s going on. Hopefully that attitude carries him through.

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