A Cautionary Tale About Oneitis

[Diamond DogParticipant 142]

I wish I would’ve learned about Mgtow at an earlier age as it would have save me wasted time on what is my worst case of oneitis. Throughout my life 99% of women didn’t give me so much as a passing glance except for the occasional ugly ones. I never actually only liked one girl at a time as there was always two or three others that I had my eye on. I wasn’t good at sports, didn’t have any skills worth mentioning, liked video games, and enjoyed history. None of these make panties wet and I had the childish thought that if I had a girlfriend somehow I’d be considered normal. I fell for quite a few girls that were out of my league and whenever I did, I’d always do things so that they might like me. Since a good majority of them weren’t interested in me, I never had a case of severe oneitis but it was coming and I had no idea until I was blindsided. After one fiasco where I trusted one girl enough to lend her a book and she never gave it back. (She said that it burned in a fire.) It was from then on I stopped being her emotional tampon. I decided to stop pursing girls and focus more on myself. This lasted for about a year until the next one turned my world upside down. For years no good looking girls ever gave me the time of day but little did I know that would eventually change. The event in my life that set the groundwork for me being Red Pilled was when I moved to a different state. I left behind great friends and with my blue pill mindset, I let people walk all over me.
During an assignment in class where we were supposed to partner up with someone, my teacher had the bright idea of pairing me up with the weird girl in class. She was about a 6/10 in terms of looks but back then I seen her as a 7. After I worked with her, I realized how great she was at the subject so I decided to keep partnering with her which was one of the most idiotic things I could’ve done. At first I wasn’t interested in her romantically even though I thought she was cute. I was put off by her quirkiness but I thought that I could use her and technically I did benefit from this partnership as I ended up squeaking by with a C by the end of the school year.
However her usefulness turned into an actual friendship and looking back there were so many red flags that I should have seen even in my blue pill stupor. Her father wasn’t in the picture and of course she hated him for that. She lost her virginity at a young age. She also had a c~~~roach for a pet which in one of her profile pictures for Facebook, she had it on her mouth. So long story short me walking her to her classes became virtually a daily occurrence. She eventually gave me her number and started to text me daily. This is where the next red flag comes into play, she had a boyfriend. I was told by her that this guy broke someone’s arm for calling her a slut.
I still had some reason in me so I chose not to pursue her but she had other plans considering she would text me questions such as, “What are your fetishes?” Or my personal favorite, “Have you had sex yet?” My basic response was that I was waiting for the right person. She ended up responding, “Oh so you’re one of those guys?” Eventually she ended up texting me that she wanted to be my first kiss. Even though I was beginning to like her she was still in a relationship with Arm Snapper so I pretended not to take her seriously. If I just walked away much of what I mention below never would have occurred.
So fast forward, I just graduated high school and was enjoying my summer vacation. Her daily texts had come to a standstill. To tell you the truth she was in my metaphorical trash bin as I was used to girls coming into my life and then leaving. Unexpectedly, she texted me out of the blue then soon after we were texting daily again. I think this is when she and Arm Snapper broke up. About a month later she sent me a message saying that she was looking for a new boyfriend. I had no idea that she was selling herself as a commodity in demand. This all came to a head when she and I were hanging out. She was telling me about how other guys were trying to date her. She then asked if I wanted my first kiss now and me already liking her said yes. Afterwards I was filled with dread and thought that I couldn’t measure up to her standards.
So I ended up lying to her saying that I didn’t want this to wreck our friendship and she told me she understood. I still remember after she left, I burst into tears cursing my cowardice and about a couple days later she updated her relationship status to “in a relationship”. I was crushed and from that day on for almost three years I subjected myself to the personal hell that was to come. It started by me barely sleeping for the first month or two. I told her how I truly felt, it was too late but when I told her she ironically dropped a red pill on me. She told me that I shouldn’t be chasing crazy girls such as herself! I couldn’t stop thinking about her not even when I finally fell asleep. She stopped texting me regularly and barely hung out with me. It got to a point where I just couldn’t be happy unless she was with me. Eventually my sadness became so great, I ended up dropping out of college. I had entwined myself to a pointless love triangle like in the movies. I would’ve laughed at myself only a few years before back then. I was only into getting a girlfriend but never liked the idea of marriage even was I was blue pilled. She poured salt into the wound by telling my mom behind my back that she ended up getting with this guy to spite me for rejecting her. She also told her that she would consider giving me another chance if she and her boyfriend broke up. Spoiler alert she didn’t give me any more chances.
She and I were in a perpetual cycle of cutting ties and reestablishing them. When she and I were in contact again she told me she had a new boyfriend. This would be her fifth boyfriend since I knew her which was roughly about four years. I ended up paying the whole meal even though she offered to split it with me. I did what the “perfect gentleman” would have done! I dropped her off at her work and I still can recall driving away with tears welling up in my eyes. Suddenly I was seeing red, feeling p~~~ed at her and myself for wasting my time trying to get with her.
I found out about the Red Pill from Paul Joseph Watson’s video on Neomasculinity. When I read Rational Male that’s when I knew that this is the direction that I wanted to take my life. I wanted to be a PUA but ended up reconsidering after I realized something obvious. The only reason I gave a s~~~ about her and other attractive girls was because I wanted to get in their pants. Never had any interest in their personal lives and that is when I realized that being a PUA wouldn’t work out for me as it would only give me short term pleasure.
It was from Return of Kings that I first found out about Mgtow It was a criticizing post but when I finished reading, I was filled with curiosity. It was almost like telling a kid not to take a cookie from the cookie jar. I found the reddit first, then Sunrise Hoodie, then Turd Flinging Monkey, and finally this website. After reading a lot of the posts I noticed that my worldview coincided with Mgtow. After a year of finding the red pill I’m proud to say that I have purged a lot of s~~~ I don’t need. I’m planning on going back to school and take a few classes that I need for what I want to get into. I won’t lie though, I am a little apprehensive as its been roughly four years since I left. I hope I didn’t lose too much knowledge in the interim but I do think it will be different this time. I don’t have anymore blue pill fantasies holding me down and couldn’t have done it without finding about Mgtow.

Don't be a "provider" unless you are providing for yourself.

[DocParticipant]

Ragnar. Welcome.

The object of life is not to be on the side of the majority, but to escape, finding oneself in the ranks of the insane. Marcus Aurelius

[hmskl’dParticipant 6406]

Greetings, several topics to think about .. in your interesting post.

[FrostByteParticipant 19005]

Once you focus on yourself a forget about the girls your grades will improve.
Welcome

If you rescue a damsel in distress, all you will get is a distressed damsel.

[RedPillNexusParticipant 100]

You got farther than I ever did in High School. Never had a relationship. It was only up to my junior (11th) year when I really started to become depressed about being single.

Ive tried many times, never worked out. So many red flags that I was too dumb and blue to see. I dont want to bore you with my introduction, as you can find it on my profile.

Longstory short, my last attempt made me go full MGTOW, which happened to be in April of last year.

I laugh when people shame me.
I laugh when people have relationship drams
I laugh when people tell me what to do.

So far, I rejected to girls that had more red flags than the capitol of China, and I declined a blind date request from a friend.

Yeah no, Im done. Welcome to the club my friend!

As the men below me sift through the fog of despair to find the one they call soulmate, I sit at the highest peak of the tallest mountain embracing the self sovereignty.

[Diamond DogParticipant 142]

RedPillNexus wrote:

You got farther than I ever did in High School. Never had a relationship. It was only up to my junior (11th) year when I really started to become depressed about being single.

Luckily I never was depressed about not having a girlfriend. I accepted it completely by my junior year that I likely wouldn’t get a “high school girlfriend” but it was during my junior high years that I wanted one the most. Thought that would be my ticket into the popular crowd. It wasn’t until my senior year that I realized that these “popular kids” had a lot on their plates. They were stressing about drama and here I was impatiently waiting for the day to end so I could play Cod Black Ops! By high school even though I was interested in a few girls, as I said above I never really had a case of just falling completely for just one girl. I wasn’t perfect as I did ridiculous s~~~ so that they would notice me. Giving them candy bars, lending books, giving pencils, letting one switch seats with me so that she could sit with her friend, and giving gum.

Never worked out though now when I think of back it was for the best. I would have wasted more money on them. Thank you all for the warm welcome.

Don't be a "provider" unless you are providing for yourself.

[PistolPeteParticipant 27143]

Been down the same oneitis road as you—but never again. And I wasted far more time and money than you did. And all for nothing. Glad you got out and wised up when you did.

[AttonParticipant]

In the end you got free, for many that is far more difficult.

A MGTOW is a man who is not a woman's bitch!

[RorschachParticipant 2083]

Nothing cures a case of oneitis like reality stepping in and shoving uncomfortable truth right up your ass. Never put anyone on a pedestool. Noone is special. People are merely people. We could all be ground into sausage just the same.

The accumulated filth of all their sex and murder will foam up about their waists and all the whores and politicians will look up and shout "save us!"....... and i'll look down and whisper "No."

[LionOnTheLooseParticipant 1315]

Welcome home, Ragnar! What a lot of time you wasted on that weirdo. You can focus on what matters to you now you know there’s nothing wrong in doing so, and there are plenty of brothers out there who are doing the same.

I too found out about MGTOW from PUA websites, again because they were criticising MGTOW. I think the PUA community can be a good recruiting ground for MGTOWs. PUAs think they have taken the red pill, and in a sense they have, but they’re also still enslaved to the pussy. I personally think that, given enough time to think things through, a PUA will go MGTOW. Even Roosh V shows signs of it at times. Give it 5-10 years.

Again, welcome brother.

There aren't holes in your pockets. It's called marriage.

[Diamond DogParticipant 142]

Atton wrote:

In the end you got free, for many that is far more difficult.

I was lucky that I didn’t get into a relationship with her in that it might have been harder to free myself. It took me seeing her go through five boyfriends in such a relatively small period to wake me up, no small feat.

Don't be a "provider" unless you are providing for yourself.

[MonkParticipant 16979]

Diamond Dog wrote:

She also had a c~~~roach for a pet which in one of her profile pictures for Facebook, she had it on her mouth.

You are lucky you didn’t end up buried in the woods.

[Y_Participant 4591]

Welcome
We all have something like this – don’t sweat it.
only the future matters – the past is gone and beyond your reach. Live for tomorrow.

[VertexParticipant 361]

Welcome Ragnar, I can relate and honestly tell you that we are cleansed upon joining this community, so you are now going your own way, and improving your quality of life. Cheers.

You can bring a horse to water, but you can't make it drink.

[Knarley BobParticipant 2219]

Welcome Ragnar, welcome………..
I have heard that hind-sight is 20/20. You are still young enough, and it seems you are wise enough to learn from your past. That is what people call experience and or wisdom. But ONLY if you learn from it. That is what one is supposed to do in their youth, learn. You have taken a step in the right direction. May good fortune be in your future, you are among good people here………..

OATHKEEPERS, not on our watch. MOLON LABE

[Manspread MansplainerParticipant 4222]

I enjoyed reading your intro.
Another psycho bitch walking around on this planet: the gods weep.

Welcome to the c~~~ free zone!

If women ran the world = It would become the shithole you are seeing.

[Diamond DogParticipant 142]

Manspread Mansplainer wrote:

Another psycho bitch walking around on this planet: the gods weep.

Twilight Zone theme starts playing.

Don't be a "provider" unless you are providing for yourself.

[Gravel PitParticipant]

Diamond Dog wrote:

I found the reddit first, then Sunrise Hoodie, then Turd Flinging Monkey, and finally this website.

Hell ya man. Welcome. My intro was 5 years ago to Sandman, quickly switched to Stardusk videos. To this day, the Stardusk Compilation remains my bedrock, where my epiphany happened.

[Non ServiamParticipant 91]

Don’t worry about never having had a girlfriend in high school. It’s overrated – girlfriends in general for that matter.

[Diamond DogParticipant 142]

Non Serviam wrote:

Don’t worry about never having had a girlfriend in high school. It’s overrated – girlfriends in general for that matter.

I absolutely agree, they’re nothing but money pits!

Don't be a "provider" unless you are providing for yourself.

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