4 Reasons to Date Someone Who's Been Divorced ??? WTF

Nope. Damaged goods, as am I. The difference is that I’ll never do it again, and I’m perfectly happy to do for myself.

PistolPete wrote:

If they were “marriage material” why are they divorced?

1)Started to lose their looks and SWV, wanted validation.
2)Husband made their life too comfortable so they got bored.
3)Started to wonder if this is it and if it is the best hey could do, thought the grass was greener.
4)Loved the endorphins that secretly texting chad and meeting up in motorway hotels gave her.

Any/all of the above.

743 roadmaster wrote:

The Love Gap

also known as…the vagina.

Seriously though, I don’t have a big problem with her statements in general. She may actually have some data and experiences to back it up. I mostly agree with number 4. Women who are divorced, or maybe it’s just their age, are less likely to want to wait for the 3rd date, for example, to have sex if they are wanting it an hour in to the first date.

However, these are not reasons to date divorced people. They are reasons why dating someone who’s divorced may be better then dating someone who hasn’t been divorced. It’s avoiding any reasons not to date divorcees, or women in general. It most certainly doesn’t mean dating divorced people is better than not dating at all. She’s assuming the reader is already convinced they want to date regardless of reasons.

As well, she also does a ‘good job’ of not saying these are reasons to marry someone who’s divorced. Statistics are clear that success rate goes down after each failed marriage.

Awakened wrote:

you should challenge all those common rules and beliefs in dating. Toss out the stigmas. Do what feels right. Focus on connecting with each person you meet. And don’t discount anyone; sometimes, love is found where you least expect it.”

translation:
ignore reason and your friends and family, instead – embrace your thirst, think with your little head and chase every snatch you see. Don’t mind how they look and what they do – all women feel the same with the lights off. You might make a good slave for someone in need

Imagine article in Army Times “4 Reasons To Re-enlist A Deserter”
It makes no sense why you should do that.

I believe in second chances, but the blind approach is bordering on criminally negligent

Romulus wrote:

the road wrote:

You are asking to lose EVERYTHING that you worked your entire life for if you marry a woman. You are an imbecile if you marry one that has already divorced raped another man already. You are NOT special to them.

I’m an imbecile! Or was.

The first thing that stands out is, there is no real commitment. The word doesn’t mean a thing to snowflake who has divorced.

A lot of these first marriage are church weddings, taking vows where she promises to be married till death do us part…and to be faithful……before G*d.

If a woman will casually violate a vow she makes to G*d, then any promises she makes to a mere human has all strength of a toothpick.

That was a huge red pill for me to swallow. We got married in a Christian church and ceremony. We made very earnest vows before God.

A few years later, when she was divorcing me, at one point I asked her, “what about your vows before God?”

Her response: “F~~~ my vows!”

She’s offering her services if anyone here needs advice 🙂

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4 Reasons not to date/marry a divorced woman:
1. She has a proven record of not being wife material.
2. She knows all the dirty tricks from experience, when she is preparing for seperating from you.
3. She will never be thankful, as your most important asset (your steady flow of income/resources) is already provided by welfare/ex-hubby.
4. Attracting 20 something hotties is much harder when wearing the territorial mark of another woman.

Awakened wrote:

Do what feels right.

Women don’t think, they rationalize ‘feelz’.

What ‘feels’ right to me, is avoiding every woman in modern society.

Her article is, at it’s most basic level, once again asking the question –

Where are All the Good Men?

Rounding up men to date divorced women now. They’ve reached a new level of low.