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Hello everyone
I have been “lurking” here for quite sometime now. I came across this site while browsing videos on youtube in search of the ultimate question “what is wrong with women?”
I am 24 yrs old and I can honestly say I have never been in a long term relationship and I am pretty inexperienced. I used to think something was wrong with me (maybe there is) but society and women have me so confused as to what I should be striving for as a man. I have heard many horror stories when it comes to divorce and that has been further reinforced by reading all the experiences on this site. In a way I have always been mgtow, I enjoy being on my own in general and I have no desire to play the game that my friends seem to accept. Should I play the game just to get some experience? Should I be on this site? Maybe I am just bitter because I can’t get laid.
Believe it or not my parents are still together and love each other very much but alas that is no more than a fantasy nowadays, something my mother does not and will not ever understand. Women have changed but I don’t blame them or hate them for it. I am just going my own way. Every relationship I have seen my friends go through all just seems like an act, an act for the first year until the true personality is revealed and it is not pretty. I do not wish to be apart of that and that is fine for me but how can I live a happy life on my own when the people I care about (mom) won’t get off my back about finding a girl and getting married, she hasn’t said it but she thinks I am a loser.
Anyways, I didn’t plan on asking advice in my intro but I just got typing, any advice would be appreciated.
I used to work with this woman. I thought she was attractive and interesting, but I was in a long-term post-divorce relations~~~, and wasn’t able to ask her out. Finally got smart, got out, and asked her. We went out a couple times. She posted lovey-dovey song on my Facebook page (we’re both late 30s/early 40s, so that was kinda weird). After date 2, she told me she’d been in a bad relations~~~, just got out, and didn’t want to start anything with me, but was glad we went out. I said fine, and just kept it friendly. Now, I see things posted on her page like “The hard part of being a lone wolf? It gets lonely”, and a cartoon that I’ll paste below. I’m resisting the urge to tell her, “You know I was interested in you for a couple years before we went out. We got along just fine, and when I see stuff like this, I just wanna say ‘You f~~~ed up'”. I know, as a good MGTOW, I shouldn’t give a s~~~, but I liked this woman, and now that I’m in another long-term relationship, I can’t act on it. I gotta let it go, but with the satisfaction that she finally realized she’s missed not only my boat, but probably others.

Then, there was a woman I dated for a while, that wouldn’t put out without a wedding ring. I dumped her because of that, and the fact that we lived an hour apart. She texted me yearly after that, just to see if I were single. Didn’t get a text this year, so I FB stalked her. Engaged. I gotta say, that was kinda kick to the ego. I shouldn’t give a s~~~ because I’m involved with someone, and I have no intention of going back to her. I guess its an ego thing, since I used to be the Plan B guy, and that kinda stroked my ego. Anyway, I thought I’d share and see if ya’ll had feedback or whatnot.
Hello all,
First of all thanks to those who have created this community. I’m fairly new to mgtow, and after nuking a decent relationship due to a female friend playing games with my emotions, I am working towards moving on and never going through this madness again.
To elaborate, there was a woman that I met in uni in the US. We were lab partners and kind of became friendly. I saw the warning signs about her because of her constant hookups, flirts, etc., all whilst trying to start a relationship. Most of her guys were friends, and tbh she was very easy to sleep with because of her standards.
For a good while, I stood as far away from being anything than just a friend. At most I would have lunch with her while we worked on our project. After a few months of not talking, she appeared again, she wanted to have lunch again (I paid of course) and wanted me to go to her friend’s birthday party. I agreed, but didn’t expect much since her and her boyfriend were official by now. By observing, it was obvious her and her boyfriend had an unhealthy relationship, partially due to both of their behaviours. Overall, she started talking to me out of the blue, posting pictures from our project on Facebook, and trying to get me to participate in posts and pictures on Facebook in order to ‘show the world our love’. I still thought nothing of it, and really foresaw her being a lead on.
I resisted for a while, but she ended up getting a job at my office and even though she would insist on going out for lunch, dinner. She would always insist my attention be on her, even though she flirted with my friends and co-workers, and could hardly keep her attention away from other guys. She would also start saying ‘I love you’ just to get my attention when she was depressed, even after talking about how how my co-worker is. After a while, I just ended up dating another girl, and she got apprehensive about it, wanting to know everything about her and all. I kept it pretty quiet because my girlfriend at the time disliked this friend a lot and saw right through her. Overall, it didn’t go too badly until my friend started wanting me to hangout with her during the Christmas holiday. This was when I started to crack, because my parent’s really liked her compared to anyone else I dated. She really put on a show. What got me emotional towards this friend is that she started texting me about how she wanted to date me, and that she missed me a lot. And since I wasn’t open about my current relationship, she was trying to play it off as if she was my girlfriend. When I met her mum, she even talked about, we’ll get married someday. It really messed with my head, because I’m a go getter and will work on a plan once given a vission. Eventually, I started getting emotional and broke up with my girlfriend of 3 months irrationally because of this entire debacle. I saw my life with this friend, and didn’t want to let it go now.
Starting my new single life, my friend remained sort of interested in talking to me, but mostly because she was lonely. She ended up dropping out of uni to go back home and work. She didn’t have too many friends so I didn’t mind. I started giving her the benefit of the doubt that she was going to change, and maybe she could work and take classes at a community college. Since I was busy at work and studying during the days, we would talk at nights fairly often, and she eventually brought up going to a football (soccer here in North America) match, to which I agreed. She acted surprised that I got tickets (all for show again), and when it came time for the game, it became obvious that she was full on distracted by other guys, even dipping out for a bit to talk to a guy that she led on and dumped behind the scenes. I got pretty flustered privately, but still held on to the idea of her everyday.
She eventually went silent to me over a mate she just met on Tinder. She eventually texted me randomly only because she felt forgotten when he showed up late to pick her up. She thought I forgot her, to which I replied, no, I think about her every day. Her text back was about how much she misses me, etc. etc. and that this other guy is not worth it.
Finally, up to the past month, this friend started getting more serious with this guy from Tinder and getting herself into another somewhat rocky relationship (from my observation). So she’s been back and forth between wanting to hang out and giving me the silent treatment. I didn’t get a text back until after how boyfriend left for sea duty in the navy, and I posted a facebook post about dating my ex-girlfriend again. The text read of jealousy, and she ended up calling me, suggesting to meet my family, hangout, go hiking, travel to Europe, and a slew of other things that most people would do with a girlfriend, family, or a really longtime friend. Another mention is now her intent to date to marry, only after I mention that was my intention a few months earlier. It’s like she trolls around everything I write and say, only to repeat it back to me, and brag that the guy she’s with is getting that benefit or doing that for her. Later on, I kind of did agree to visit her since I was passing through her town, where she pretty much just bragged about her boyfriend and how perfect he is, while I tried to play happy and not jealous (unlike her). She even texted me about flowers…flowers that I got (her favourite kind as well).
I’ve only known this girl on and off for a year and a half, and even then, I’ve done a lot for her than probably many guys before, even when I half-assed cared and wanted to stay far away.
I got tickets to her favourite American football team for her birthday later this year, buckling into pressure from her constant reminders and my parents seeing her as an undeniably great person. This pretty much sunk my relationship. My girlfriend violently broke up with me last week because of this mess when she coincidentally makes her relationship to the Tinder guy public to her friends for the first time.
Now I’m back to being single, back to a silent treatment (her boyfriend is back for the month), and I’ve got my parent’s asking about this friend all the time now. I’m an emotional wreck now and can’t concentrate on my classwork.
I can’t say that this experience will steer me away from the traditional route of relationships/marriage, but it definitely makes me listen to my instincts again and avoid the women who are only about playing games. Since I’m pretty sure I’m going to see her during her birthday (coincidentally when her boyfriend is on sea duty again), I need to figure out how to make a not so awkward exit, or at least set the record straight, no matter if this is intentional or not.
Thanks for reading 🙂

