I’ve noticed a lot of you speak about how you cultivate your friendships as a great way to take the place of women in your life – would you have any advice for someone like me who’s friends have all got married & moved away, and every man around me is painfully blue pill? I work a lot and pay child support so don’t have much disposable income to go out and meet people, so my only real chance is my team at work – a bunch of engineers who are older than me but certainly not in any way wiser.

I’ll say it – I’m lonely. What on earth can I do?

See if there’s a group of people in your area that have interests similar to yours.  There are often meet-ups in various cities for people to gather together and, in fact, there is a website to find out about such gatherings:

http://www.meetup.com

respectfully I read your last sentence.

I’ll say it  – I’m lonely. What can I do ?

For start just let me give you the advice and don’t say or think that you are lonely, just say you are with yourself. You change the view of your situation by doing this.

When I was a younger man I felt lonely for years, and I was alone, no doubt. I always thought that there is something wrong with me, and all the guys I met made me feel alone and maybe, I was not a little bit innocent about this. But something in me was always there which told me that I am not as wrong as they want to make me feel.

One day I woke up, angry beside myself with rage. It ends with a decision which have to been made: Death or Alive, which means leaving this world and the whole s~~~ behind and end my life or to hang on whatever will happen. A struggle  in my began, the hardest time of my life, but my Will to hang on remains as winner. Maybe the point when I decided to be a MGTOW without knowing it.

I start to love being with myself. I saw if there are no commitments I am absolutely more free. I stayed longer at work, while the blue pillars had to go home to their families, although complaining about it. At last I earned more money. I talked to co-workers which always want me to come with them, told me that they are going outside tonight but every one has to be in time because two or three of the guys will be offended when one will come too late. What a crap.

I started to identifiy all the bad things in relationships and friendships. It is not an easy part because there is the danger that you slowly but surely start to hate everything around you.

But more and more I did find out that it is not bad being with yourself.
I saved my money, I did not often go out, when I did I never cared about the money I may spend. Doing this you will loose both, the money and the fun.

Nowadays I do not have real pals. Maybe it sounds sad but it is not. I got some loose contacts but that is enough for me, hopelssly blue pillars.
Just like in your situation my co-workers are also blue pillars and  I am glad that no one asks me to go out for a beer. It is enough for my being together at work for 8 or 10 hours a day.
I admit, when I had to pay child support it would hurt me the most.

But, I can follow my interests, or I do nothing if I want to. No one tells me to do something or pushes me in his life construction.
Are you an engineer or technician ? Very good. You got skills, use them.

When hardship comes over you and you have cabin fever, put on you cheapest clothes you got, the best shoes you have, show your nicest smile and take a walk along the most noble avenue in your home town.

Be with yourself and enjoy it.

CHEERS!!!

I think it important to understand that once you have cut all the s~~~ out of your life, you can choose how you want to build it. i do best with a core group of 3-8 people that i can speak freely with and hang out with. if you need people (and a lot of people do) you’ll have to take the initiative and find some and make friends. Read and re-read hollowmile’s post to you. very brilliant advice in there.

Other than that I’ll talk with people at work for a good 10-15 minutes or so before I get bored with the triviality and then go on my way.

Try as I may I pretty much have a general dislike of people and human nature in general. I don’t know if I’d call myself a nihilist but I’m definitely a misanthrope, even if I try not to be. I basically have the patience for stupid people that you’d see in someone twice my age. I’ve always considered myself a grumpy old man in a young man’s body. I don’t have any social hang-ups like anxiety or fear, I just physically find myself getting irritated if I’m around people too much, and this is increased 100 fold if there is nothing but superficial bulls~~~ to talk about. I hate small talk about trivial bulls~~~.

So after being in solitude doing my own thing I may decide to be more sociable with people but after a short time I just go back to solitude because I just get p~~~ed off being around people. Kind of a weird cycle but given I always end up finding myself preferring solitude as opposed to continuous contact with most people, so I considered myself a misanthrope based on this evidence that’s been compiled for years. Even as early as high school.

I think this is a great time to put forward the idea of having a chat-room on the site for people that want to shoot the s~~~ in real time. I’m really not familiar with any chat-rooms in particular that aren’t PC. Seems every site wants to cover it’s ass from whatever legal issues by being complete c~~~s if someone speaks their mind.