One thing my single mother did pretty well was instill in me a healthy fear of women.  I never really perused dating in my youth, afraid that some bitch would pull some stupid drama and f~~~ me over. I did date, but only when pursued, and only with women who I deemed as “having their s~~~ together.” Well, that f~~~ed up, eventually, when I met this girl who I thought had her s~~~ together when I was a sophomore in college. Long story short, she ended up dicking me over around peers and spread bulls~~~ around to professors and fellow students in my department to the point that I walked away from college.. for ten years.

So I went back. I didn’t do the serious girlfriend thing in all that time. There was some red pill wisdom in me before being presented any options. In video games I played I noticed how girls would f~~~ with guys to get loot or crafted s~~~ they wanted for their character, and It reinforced that healthy fear of women. My philosophy on women for a very long time was hit it with protection, then lose her number. I had work bulls~~~, I sure as f~~~ didn’t need more.

Anyway, that’s a digression, I dropped my decently paying job and went back to school, pursuing a CogPsy counseling degree. Call me nuts, but I just dig on human psychology, and deep down, I’ve got this hard-wired need to nurture and protect something, and if that’s not a woman, I might as well make money doing it, while learning about something that fascinates me.

My junior year(this time around at college) I met a girl who didn’t strike me as obnoxious or petty. I’m still seeing her, and I’m a month from graduation. I’m broke as s~~~, and have been ever since I met her, and she’s not really cared about that stuff. The girl is pursuing a veterinary medicine degree, and seems to be focused work/study first, comfort later. This, combined with her showing signs of  high intelligence, has kept me around. I enjoy the company of this woman, and well, until a few days ago when I stumbled upon some red-pill wisdom to remind me why I kept the f~~~ away from women in the past, I was considering a future with her.

So, here I am, purple pill as hell, as I’m in a relationship and haven’t dropped the girl, but suddenly re-possessed by a healthy fear of women and their tendency towards petty money-grubbing vindictive bulls~~~.  I’m not going to pretend that I’m all in with the red pill or blue pill, but I am honestly looking at both and not sure which one to swallow.

Marriage is a state regulated contract wherein the state may impose its own terms regardless of what the two of you may have once agreed on. These are generally bad for men.

For your particular situation, if you have doubts or concerns, then have a discussion, or a series of discussions, that clarify exactly what the obligations and expectations are for each of you and see if you can come up with a set of terms that both will volunteer for.

A century ago, the roles of each party were pretty rigid in relationships between men and women. Now, relationships are more customizable and we are all free to do and have whatever relationship terms we want. But for this freedom, you must know what terms you want, and be able to explain them clearly, preferably with a record. You must also be able to understand (and trust) that the terms being offered to you are fair and reliable.

Most people on this site have pretty much given up the hope that a reasonable agreement with women can be reached, or that women can be trusted to be negotiating in good faith to begin with. But you don’t need us to tell you what to do. Pay attention to the exact terms and circumstances that you are in. If there is lack of certainty of decision, it probably results from lack of clear insight into the terms. What I and others will tell you is that you should not tolerate any uncertainty of terms…