MGTOWNew Member, Newly Single, Newly Rediscovering Myself – MGTOW https://www.mgtow.com/forums/topic/new-member-newly-single-newly-rediscovering-myself/feed/ Tue, 09 Jun 2020 13:56:35 +0000 http://bbpress.org/?v=2.5.14-6684 en-US https://www.mgtow.com/forums/topic/new-member-newly-single-newly-rediscovering-myself/page/484/#post-10493 <![CDATA[New Member, Newly Single, Newly Rediscovering Myself]]> https://www.mgtow.com/forums/topic/new-member-newly-single-newly-rediscovering-myself/page/484/#post-10493 Tue, 16 Dec 2014 17:20:22 +0000 So my story’s not one of bitterness or of anger or anything like that…but rather one of utter astonishment of how much you can change (and be changed) over the course of a marriage.  I’m recently single (just going through my divorce) after 14 years of marriage with two awesome kids.  I’m a total nerd/geek and have always been shy from a personal-perspective, but very outgoing, social and vocal when it relates to my career/technology.  I ended up getting married fairly young (24) likely because I didn’t think I could do any better (you know, early 20’s self confidence issues).  At that age, I had all kinds of hobbies and interests (video games, cars, woodworking, climbing and mountain biking, etc) that for whatever reason (money, time, kids, wife) I no longer participated in later in life.  So fast-forward to recently where my ex walks up to me a few years ago and basically says I don’t think I love you anymore….WTF?  I was angry, p~~~ed and horribly upset…but when I actually started to think about it, I realized that it was a mutual feeling.  I liked her as a friend (and as my kids’ mother) but not as a wife.  But the most startling thing was what started to happen when I asked myself what I liked to do, what I liked to wear, what I wanted my house to look like….I had changed so much and didn’t even realize it until that point in time.

I was also in a unique situation because at the time all of this was going on, I was in the middle of a 3-year adventure with my family where we are traveling around in an RV seeing the country — imagine having to deal with all of this s~~~ while not physically able to escape nor legally divorce or separate!  But, everything worked out in the end…we are all still talking to one another, and I bought my own house with my own money and am setting it up exactly how I want it to be set up (with is a total 180 from what it would have been if we were together).  This process has been incredibly cathartic and is totally allowing me to become the person that I should have been all along — a confident, successful, happy man.

]]> https://www.mgtow.com/forums/topic/new-member-newly-single-newly-rediscovering-myself/#post-11160 <![CDATA[Reply To: New Member, Newly Single, Newly Rediscovering Myself]]> https://www.mgtow.com/forums/topic/new-member-newly-single-newly-rediscovering-myself/#post-11160 Mon, 22 Dec 2014 06:45:12 +0000 ForNoOne thank you for sharing and good luck with your revelation. I was lucky to get out after 3 years.

]]>