My mother then married a pretty decent guy in 2012, a guy that I got along with quite well.  He couldn’t deal with her anger issues (she tends to get very verbally abusive and, if enraged enough, physically) and when he’d try to put a stop to her rages, she called abuse on him.  He did admittedly do some things to purposefully make her angry, while he also did some things to take it out on her anger issues…as a way to “teach her a lesson,” if you will.  She tried downing an entire bottle of pills and said “no one cared about her and the only person that mattered was [my nephew].”  They divorced last year.

Now, in an awkward turn of events, my mother announced a couple of months ago that she was getting married to another guy.  Why is it awkward?  Well, if anyone remembers my life stories, they know about a woman that left me for another woman and lied through many things to get her way.  It’s her former stepdad.  Her mother left him for another man around in 2012.

I won’t be related to my ex, but I’ll be related to her attractive half-sister!

My mother just now texts me and says “we’re getting hitched at the courthouse at 2 PM if you want to come.  Dinner tonight!”

I honestly don’t know how to feel about this completely.  My ex’s former stepdad is actually one of the kindest guys you can meet.  I hope she doesn’t lash out at him like she did the previous guy.  All I know is if I go, I’ll be seeing my ex again (she’s stayed in close contact with the guy my mom’s marrying, and is in fact the one that essentially hooked them up together).  I’ve seen her more recently after the breakup already, but this just makes everything weird to me.

Personally, I wouldn’t want anything to do with any of that/them, too much history/baggage/drama.

Hopefully, you have a good relationship with your dad?

Obviously this may not be the best option and there may be other things you could do, however i wouldn’t let a man marry a snake even if that snake is my mother.
(If my mother ever announced she was getting married i would straight up tell the man exactly what kind of person she is, it would be the compassionate thing to do)

No offense.

I have abusive family members as well (not my mother, although I don’t agree with all her decisions), and instead of trying to change them I just cut relations. I don’t have time/patience to lecture anybody how to live their lives. I already have a full plate trying to lead my life avoiding any pitfalls. So, if I could suggest, I would say, go your own way, even regarding your mother. Don’t be rude or anything, but accept the fact that she is a grown woman and her decisions are hers to take, and there is nothing you can do about them. The same way SHE can’t do anything about YOUR decisions in life.

So, in a nutshell, if this whole situation makes you feel weird or bad, avoid it. Let them do whatever they want, there is nothing YOU can do, and if s~~~ hits the fan, like it seems it will, you better stay clear from the falloff.

That’s my take on it anyway.

Cheers.

I was invited to a dinner tonight with my mother and the new guy…and my ex and her boyfriend attended as well.  Sitting across the table from the ex was quite strange.  The guy she’s with actually seems cool enough.  He’s a lot like me in MANY ways.  I’m a sarcastic guy like him, and anytime I’d bring up a geeky joke that I thought no one would get, he got the joke…every time.  I think it’s funny how my ex left me for a woman, and her now-ex-girlfriend left HER for another woman, and so she went back to another guy that’s a lot like me.

I think I talked more with the ex’s boyfriend than I talked to her.  Her mannerisms were exactly how she would be to me.  I’d crack a joke and she’d look at me like something was wrong with me or that I said something “inappropriate.”  When I started acting like I didn’t care, she’d lay her head on me and would try indiscreetly pushing her cleavage out as much as she could and make a pouty face to get me to “get over” her attempted controlling.  She was doing these exact things to him.

Only funny thing is she kinda blew up since I last saw her a year and a half ago.  Her attractive half-sister didn’t show up, unfortunately.

I know some may wonder why I even went in the first place.

It was Landry’s.  I’m a sucker for seafood, and I didn’t have to say much at the table at all in the first place.  I just enjoyed my Kraken punch and coastal seafood pasta, all while laughing to myself about how I know how the woman sitting across from me really was, and how my mother could potentially be.  I try not to mean any disrespect to my mother, but cheating and abuse are two things I’ve consistently had in just about every relationship I’ve had…and you know what they say about how you “date your mom.”

Unfortunately, even our Moms are adopting this attitude of “I’m a woman, and my needs come first.” (No disrespect intended.) It all sounds kind of f~~~ed up to me. Fortunately, your life is yours now. This doesn’t mean women are going to stop imposing their whiny, selfish female bulls~~~ on you. They’re always going to do that s~~~. All it means is that you realize you don’t have to accept that burden anymore. If the new guy wants to be a pawn in these bitches’ sadistic little game, that sucks for him. But it don’t suck for Chris, because Chris is going his own way.

Oh god, why did you attend this dinner? I wouldn’t, not a chance. 

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I was invited to a dinner tonight with my mother and the new guy