I am 45 years old and divorced twice.  The first was for over 16 years and resulted in a ground-zero divorce.  Yes, she cheated, and yes, I was encouraged to man-up and make it work.  After four years trying and going through hell, I moved out on (what I thought) were amicable terms.  Surprise, surprise, she embarked on a scorched earth policy that lasted nearly a year in the divorce courts.  More on that in another post(s).

From there, I rebounded into a second marriage on the heels of the first.  That marriage lasted just over a year.  It was a case of blue-pill overdose that propelled me into the second marriage. I mistakenly thought I was wiser now, that she truly loved me, and that we were surely headed for a happy ending, right?  RIGHT?!!  Well, s~~~, I watched the switch flip as soon as the ring went on.  Suddenly it was game on.  My life became her playground of controlling, nagging, bitching, and spending…. Good Gawd, the spending.  She came into the relationship with $60 to her name and lots of debt, but I thought, “What-the-hell-why-not, the sex is great.”

I watched as she quickly blew through my remaining $25k in savings and then proceeded to max out my cards (after paying off hers, of course).  I realized I had to hit the eject button as quickly as f~~~ing possible before I was completely ruined.  More on that later, too.

Side Note: I really “enjoy” reading other’s stories (makes me realize I am not the only one experiencing these events and feelings).  Posting some of my experiences will be cathartic for me and a lesson for others.

Nasty, expensive divorces are red pill suppositories that quickly hit the system.  At first I thought I was just being pessimist.  Regardless, realizations and clarity began to form long before I knew what MGTOW was all about.  In fact, I never heard of MGTOW until stumbling across a comment to some feminist’s rant that lead me to this site.

I read, enthralled, nodding my head as I read post after post.  That said, I realize I am still very early in this journey.  I am clearly a Level Zero.  I am aware but not acting upon it other than sorting through my thoughts.

I have worked in IT for over 20 years, and have been in the National Guard for nearly 10.  About a year ago, I finished a tour in Afghanistan.  Upon returning home, my girlfriend moved in with me.  Something about being overseas in a s~~~ country with people trying to kill you that makes you miss female companionship.  Go figure.  She is about as close to a NAWALT as you can get, but I have realized there isn’t such a thing as a true NAWALT like we imagine/hope, just varying degrees of crazy, controlling, whoring, emotional women.  Again, more on that later as I try to figure it out.

Currently, I am working on my Master’s Degree in MIS as I sort out my future path.  My employer, a very large U.S. bank, has decided in its wisdom to outsource all its IT, and I have been given a warning shot that I am next on the chopping block after 17 years with the company.  Yet another red pill suppository.

Thank you all for sharing your stories and welcoming me.  I hope to contribute more in the future and learn from everyone’s experiences, thoughts and perspectives.

Obvious: first time i heard Red Pill Suppository here. Thanks, I’m stealing that one bro.

Steal away, buddy.  When I was writing my intro, I initially typed “took the red pill”.  But in thinking about it, that sounds voluntary, like popping a vitamin. It is when the courts had me bent over with no lubrication was the first red pill inserted, hence the suppository.

I now take my daily red pills in easy-to-swallow tablets via this site and others.

Welcome Capt. I’m glad to see you here at the end of all things. Yep…. you didn’t expect life to turn out like this…. good news, that’s not going to be a problem. Once you get your life down to basics, and it dawns on you how much crap you had in your life BECAUSE of women (either to attract or for them) you’re going to feel a great weight disappear. Yeah you got burned,…… twice……real bad. Ok, you might get s~~~ canned soon, and that Golden Nawalt will find greener fields I imagine. Even that is no big deal, because guess what brother? You will be free, and you can do what you do somewhere else, and not sweat any of it.

So true, thanks Smitty.

At the very least the red pill has already given me a new perspective and kept me from doing something stupid like getting married again — screw that.  Additionally, the balance of power in my relationship has shifted dramatically.  I don’t tolerate the female bulls~~~ drama anymore and have made that clear.  Kicked her to the curb once already.  When she came back apologizing, I laid out “My house, my rules” criteria if she wants to stay. As you said, doing so has lifted a lot of the weight off my shoulders.  I am not responsible for making her happy or meeting her every need whether through action or purchase.

I do realize that I might be better off without her, I see a lot of logic in the additional MGTOW levels.  But for now, I am willing to go along as long as I feel I it is working.  Yeah, I’m playing with fire, but like you said, maybe if I get laid off and she moves on, I am totally fine with that.  If she wants to pull some hypergamy and go after some blue-piller or white knight, then go.

An article linked to on this site, helped me understand my situation:  http://theobserverwatches.blogspot.com/2012/12/the-four-levels-of-mgtow-betas-shrug.html  — at level zero “men in this group may take precautions to keep what they have, such as learning game or through other methods to minimize the risks as far as possible while still having a hand in play.”

She does not have access to any of my assets.  Nothing is jointly held or titled.  She pays for her stuff — car, insurance, medical, etc.  When we go out, we alternate turns on paying.  I installed a lock on the door to one that is very easily changed.  She likes to buy stuff to decorate the house, but I have a line-item veto on anything she wants to add.  I don’t allow her to buy anything that would be considered an improvement to the house (landscaping, light fixtures, paint).  I have been researching other ideas to protect myself.  Thankfully, I live in Arizona which is not a common-law state.  But even with that, I am looking at doing a pre-nup type document with my lawyer to protect me from a trend where the courts seem to enforce a marriage-type split on non-married couples.

Anyway, a lot more I could say about that (kinda got off on a tangent). Talking about a relationship on a MGTOW site could be perceived as a little disingenuous. However, there are probably others here in a similar boat and if they want to banter thoughts, I am willing.

You are not alone here that I want to let you know.  We’ve all been through variations of the same thing.  I’ve never been married though, and my married friends tell me to never do it so I don’t think I’ve missed out on anything.   Of course, I’ve put up with over 30 years of female’s lies and deceits over many relationships.

I too am in IT.  I got s~~~ canned with zero notice after my company got bought out and got a skinflint severance package to boot. I’ve gone MGTOW with my career by becoming a consultant, and I went MGTOW with women too.  I’ve decided it was both for very similar reasons.  Megacorps only care about what they can extract from you just like the wenches.

We are the resistance and are growing our numbers.   This board is really awesome as you can just be yourself.  So kick back take things one day at a time.  You are your number one best friend.

Welcome!

Glad you found your way here and not into another marriage.  One of the system’s strategies is to shame you into “manning up” and being some other shrew’s mangina after you get your ass and b~~~~ handed to you.  So many other guys are doing it, it seems to make sense when you’re in the thick of it, and misery loves company so they’re all too happy  to see you come back into the cave.  But now you see the emperor has no clothes, cuz his wife stole em to make draperies or a duvet, or some other manner of unnecessary monkeys~~~.  There’s strenght in numbers, and every one who joins us adds to the odds that mgtow will get a fair consideration when some poor guy, having had his life destroyed, is wondering, “Is there some other way to life that feels less like rape?” (Real rape, I mean, not “I was drunk and thought he was taller, so technically I wasn’t willing to sleep with him so I was “raped”.  That’s absurd and destructive.)