I see people laughing/smiling and I feel like I’m looking out of my body, listless and purposeless.  I feel like such s~~~.  Mind you I also ‘broke up’ with a fwb I found out has a husband, we got back in contact (dumb I know) and wants to come visit for sex this weekend, this also has been f~~~ing me up, I’m lonely, desperate for attention, and her she is offering it – yet I know this is probably something I need to just drop completely.

I have always been ‘tough’ in that if I had a reason to endure I would put up with anything but its like with no goal even the littlest of tasks are overwhelming.  Ive tried turning to my friends/parents but its mostly ‘snap out of it’ which doesnt help at all.  God im so f~~~ed up right now…where the hell do I even start to get back onto the horse here?

Thanks tons

I’d say “oh man depression is horrible,” but the reality is, depression is so scary and powerful because it’s our closest perspective to real truth. The truth is we are all insignificant and nothing has a purpose. Seems bleak, but in my opinion it is freeing. You aren’t a loser, you just think you are, and what you think is an opinion, and therefor wrong. You can do whatever the f~~~ you want to do, man. That’s what is so great. There are no REAL repercussions to any of your actions because we all die eventually.

You’re F~~~ING FREE TO BE WHATEVER YOU CHOOSE. How awesome is that?? Read biographies of the greatest people and get inspiration and ideas.

Our brains are made to learn efficiently. We are supposed to master skills. The grind is what makes us content. Find something you can master that takes at least 10 years to be the best at. It’s excruciatingly difficult at first, but if everyone could do it, it would be boring as s~~~. Once you get past the beginning you get into a real rhythm and start crushing it. Then it’ll be harder to stop than to keep going with and you’ll be on a real good path.

Everlasting happiness is a myth. Learn about stoicism. Your goal shouldn’t be happiness or you’re going to be disappointed. Your goal should be tranquility.

I got a bit of a lift by studying rock climbing rigging and techniques. Something I always wanted to do when I was younger and never got to. Plan on taking it as far as I can. The thought of a rope and the gear being the only thing keeping me from going splat(still falling up to 30′ before it catches) entertains my quest for that appreciation of life.

Boredom is your enemy. And it doesn’t always take something spectacular to get the blood pumping. Sometimes its the small stuff that gives us those small boosts of enjoyment to get ya by until the next one. Keep us posted mate.

* Learn to find thanks in small things.  Gratitude helps.  Take inventory of what is good.

* Watch your diet, sleep and working out.  Your health will help out.

* Do a bunch of soul searching to find meaning.  As a plug for something I am doing with my YouTube channel, feel free to watch some of my videos on Finding Your Way, where I get into how to find purpose as a MGTOW: https://www.youtube.com/playlist?list=PL1QRV1Ohy-71wkvpj16PhL01qBeU05tfD

* Note you are missing a number of elements non-MGTOW will have, that make life easier.  Getting some hugs can help, along with other things.

* Take a break for some laughs and take one day at a time.  Watching positive material can help.

In short, seek to interrupt the depression pattern and move on.  And realize you are facing a human condition.  As a simple way to find meaning, think about how you can help other MGTOW deal with depression once you overcome it.

– As part of this, here is a way to do an interrupt on it.  Look in a mirror now, smile and saying you are the happiest person on the planet, over and over again.  There is a chance you will begin to laugh at how much bull that is, and it could help.  What you are doing is stopping it.

Anyhow, hang in there.  You aren’t alone here in dealing with this.  Idea is to stop the spiral.  And now, due to your post, I am thinking I may do a video on ways to combat depression.

stop sex and masturbating. 2-3 weeks after the cravings for it stops you will have a newfound energy

try to figure out how you can make the workd better. If you are enterprising come up wigh something on your own… Writing, making mussic etc, but if not then volunteeer and meet othe great people who are also trying to make a diffeenece in the world. Gives you new meaning.

the keys are to be energetic for any cause, exdept cause that primarily drain you (sexual eelease)

I know we all march to our own drummer, but it really helped me to get some things going on daily, to help me get out of that “funk”.
I too, had a hard time focusing on things when the depression raged the hardest. Even things I knew I enjoyed.

I kept trying to find something to take my mind off of being lonely, wanting attention, and feeling miserable, when I would see people happy and laughing.
It was like a slap in the face to me.

I decided to play Master Of Orion pc game. (My first pc game ever)
As well, as watch movies that impacted me a lot way back when. (Original Conan, Dune, etc.)

I really don’t know how or why, but it made a light bulb go on in my head.
In short, I actually found myself looking forward to doing some of these things on a daily basis, or at least when I really needed some R&R.

It also made it easier to broaden my gaze and increase my plans and goals for my life.
Started thinking about questions like :

Where do I see myself in 5 yrs?
What things can I do to make it happen?

It wasn’t an over night thing, by any means, but I realized I found myself no longer depressed and was content with myself more times than not.
I still have days of being sad, and all, like the next person. At least it makes it more manageable for me this way.

Hope it is helpful and useful for you.
I know it sucks ass feeling like that.

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The BEST BOOK for you right now is without a doubt: MAN’S SEARCH FOR MEANING by Viktor e. Frankl

Get this book now and read  read read. read the s~~~ out of it. DO IT, it’s easy. Just READ THAT BOOK NOW

“You cant fall off the floor”

Rock bottom is a very good starting place. The clean slate that you can design the new you.

Inside you is a spark …. it may be dim right now but doing the above suggested things will increase that spark to a flame.

Your dark self has control at the moment …. the shodows surround your soul.

Rise up my friend. Take back your life from them. Give them no room … no quater …. no rest.

Force yourself to do physical work outs. That will help you sleep.

Eat good food. Nothing out of a tin or pack….. fresh food.

Go help at a local soup kitchen and talk to those guys.

Rise up …. we your brothers are here … talk with us.

Today my friend … today … right now … you start.

Stand up …. and push through … through the storm. Though it’s strong and beating …. PUSH THROUGH

We keep a watch duty out for you.

But depression is your mind’s way of telling you something is wrong – listen to it and don’t fight it. I’ve read a book “find your own north star” that is excellent at trying to get yourself out of a rut and I am about to take up hiking to fitten me up (health and fitness section thread about it)and get out to meet new people as I want fresh company in my life and also to have the confidence to do hikes by myself.

You need a project as others always say on this forum or just something to look forward to and I am saying all this feeling crappy myself at the moment and I am slowly getting myself out of it. It is much easier said than done but even if it is watching a football game at the weekend or a new game/film release to look forward to – just focus on something

whatever you do DON’T see this women – she will know how you are feeling and screw you over completely and make you feel worse