So I have a question to be subjected to the hot, fiery crucible of MGTOW. Here we go:

Say you have a friend who is a very intelligent woman (we’re talking genius level) who is also pretty good looking.. say a 6 – 7. No worries, I am too. We’re basically intellectual equals but her focus is different (Art and Biology)

Say this woman is someone you are not having, and will not have sex with, and that this is established in the friendship.What I mean is I can honestly say I think of her as a sister, in a sense, and the idea of having sex with her is kinda creepy to me.

Now say you become roommates. Not a couple.. nothing even approaching that.. but roommates. Sharing the bills etc.

Now lets add that this female friend loaned you five figures when you were down, and you have since paid it back. Lets say she is fully self supporting, and has no intention of having children.

Lets add that she has been there for you when you have had problems of other kinds, even going so far as to explain the female mind to you (which is one of the reasons I became a MGTOW before I found this place).

In those conditions, would you say that having her as a roommate is a good idea? I’ll add, she has been a wingwoman for me a couple of times, and although she likes men and is definitely hetero, I have helped her get a girl from time to time (she can be shy around girls she likes, but not guys) She has also not asked to be my roommate at all. But the idea came up in my head, and I wanted to see what you guys thought.

It sounds almost too good to be true.

You become roomates… … … …

then the other shoe drops.        might be a long ‘then,’ but when the other shoe drops please tell us.     [[[IOW I wouldn’t do it if I were you.]]]

Now say you become roommates. Not a couple.. nothing even approaching that.. but roommates. Sharing the bills etc.

Then it will turn into who is doing the house chores and… BAM

Before you know it, you’re paying bills, doing house chores for her and being her emotional tampon while she crams Ben N Jerry’s Ice Cream while watching The Notebook…Giving her rides to work, listening to her problems and nagging you about missing trash day.

And you don’t even want to have sex with her..

What in gods name are you f~~~ing thinking? NOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOO.

She’s employing Dale Carnegie’s, “Let the other person think the idea is his.”
It sounds almost too good to be true.

Ditto!

So what you’re saying is there is this bi-unicorn that you wouldn’t f~~~?

Or she’s like a sister (Freud) ….

Why bother, just be you without the potential s~~~ storm that will come.

1 bullet 6 chambers …. 😭

In a nutshell: if you want to minimize the chances of a s~~~storm, don’t do it.

I will say that she IS a worker, and doesn’t like being dependent on others. She recently is learning auto mechanics and is really proud she can now fix her own car, including brakes and etc. So I don’t think it would roll that way with her. I didn’t mention she was not American, so maybe that could put it in more perspective.

However, I do think, after contemplating it, that it could easily get sticky when emotional things are getting her down. You’re right.. I could easily become a backstop for her problems in that way, and while I like helping her, if i was living with her that would make it really difficult, and could end the friendship in a s~~~storm.

“Never live with a friend”. Yep.

Thanks for your perspectives 🙂

– its for your own good